How do you break off a 4yr relationship that is no longer "doing it" for you

[DC1125]

OK --- been in a 4year realtionship living together....recently switched carrers, am now in law enforcement...anyway...I meet someone else who is seeing another person now for 1.5 years...and I am falling for them

 

My dilemma is this --- I am not so much tied to this new person...however so much that I am not really in love with the 4yr relationship anymore...I know I should break it off, but it would be so much work to move out, and not sure if I can financially handle it right now...so on top of all that, any advice?

[2muchthought]

Depends on if your partner is reasonable or not, will he/she kick you out if you are honest w/ them. Are you able to just tell them the truth and stay freinds at least untill you are able to move out?

[sundrop]

Start tighting up the purse strings, because when you tell her your true feelings, I am sure you will be looking for a new place.

You have been in a 4 year realtionship and she deserves the truth.

It's not going to be easy for either of you and hate to say it, but you made your bed and have to lay in it.

But just make sure you can stand on your feet before you spill the beans.

[country gal]

i just wanted to make sure you have really thought this through.... what i mean is, you dont want to find out in a few months that you were drawn to this new person because he/she had those few things that your current person doesnt give you - but doesnt have anything more to offer beyond that or falls short of what you are looking for.

 

in other words, really think about whats drawing you so close to this other person and realistically about what dont they have that you will need. once you've done that and still want out, make sure you have your penny's saved!