miriam Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 Ok I am starting to stress. I am going to a wedding this weekend that my ex boyfriend will also be attending. It is for a mutual friend of ours. Pre break up we planned on going together, but obviously we are not now. When we broke up 3 weeks ago I told him that i probably was not going to go. I have since changed my mind (not bc of my ex) Its the wedding of my old roomate and several of my friends will be there. I have kept up with NC for 3 weeks, but yesterday we spoke over im for the first time since since I told him being friends would be too hard for me. We also talked today for a bit. The thing is he does not know that I am going to the wedding now. So should I let him know if we talk again or not say anything? I am having a really hard time deciding what to do. Part of me wants to tell him but a majority of my friends are telling me to not say anything. Any opinions? Oh yeah the wedding is also the day before our would be 1 year anniversary.
Kat Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 If you have broken up then I see no reason why you should have to tell him you are going. I would start thinking about seeing your friend get married and having a good time with your other friends that would be there and stop this guy infecting the moment!
Delicaterose00 Posted July 20, 2005 Posted July 20, 2005 I would ask, cause maybe if he figures your not going, he might be planning on bringing someone and you dont want to see him with someone else do you?? So maybe if you tell him, he wouldnt do that to you. Just in June, a month after my ex and I broke up, I didnt go to my cousins wedding... My ex was going to be there cause her husband is bestfreinds with him.. I didnt want to hear all the love songs playing and thinking of us, and I didnt want to see him have a blast while I was sitting there all sad and missing him.... so I would say to ask....
butterfly29 Posted July 20, 2005 Posted July 20, 2005 Yeah, chances are you're in for a bad day or the rest of the week if you see him. I am choosing not to go to an anual Exhibition this year and a party to avoid a possible chance of seeing my ex. The chance of us meeting there is slim but possible. I don't want to risk, my sanity and piece of mind is more important to me. I wouldn't even go to the wedding if I were you. You can always congratulate and hang out with your friends later. I mean are you going to the bachelette party? That would be a lot healthier to spend time with your good friends. I'm sure they'll understand. If you're close to the bride or groom, talk to them about your situation, they might be able to ask him if he's going.
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