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My EX Boyfriend has blocked me on Facebook after months, is he playing games??

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So im 23 and my ex is 26. We dated for a short amount of time, a few months. It was a LDR. Anyway we really liked eachother and things sarted to progress. In a very short time we had talked about getting engaged and married.

 

I went to visit him last year in July, and everything went down hill from there. First of all this guy is immature, indecisive and relies heavily on his parents, he also lives with them. He Has no car and no job and has not finished uni, Sleeps till 1pm and is on Facebook till 5am.

 

Anyway when i came to visit him (stayed for a month) i thought everything was going to be fine until he dumped me the first time around after saying "come meet my dad". He texts me 2 hours later saying "Ella im sorry my dad does not approve" blah blah. I was upset and what not, so i gave him some time to clear his head and asked him to think things through.

 

So he did, i went to another city (in his country/my native county) to visit my grandparents. Btw when i said I'd give him some time to think things through i meant going NC for a week. Eventually this guy said that i need to come back ASAP because he had made the choice that he wants to marry me, then kept on texting me every hour asking where i was, why I wasn't answering and who i was with.

 

I came back to him after a week. That night everything was OK, he came and we had a talk and so on. In the back of my mind i knew something was still not right. The next day he goes and gets all the papers he needs for a town hall wedding. He gets them and im thinking ok, this is real now. Throughout the whole day i noticed him smoking (sign of stress)

 

That same night he goes home and i had an uneasy feeling in the pit of my stomach, he was supposed to text me but didnt. So i texted him and he sent me a text saying "i cant do this". I was shattered. I asked for him to come so we could speak and he cried the whole night saying "my dad doesn't agree with this, he said he would have a heart attack". Btw, this guy also cried at a restaurant when we were having pizza, he said it reminded him of his mum..weird i thought.

 

Anyway he officially breaks up with me. This guy also had my money that i never gave to him, he asked if he could put it in his wallet because i didnt have one on me. I said sure. He never gave this money back to me intead he used it for a dinner and for fuel. There was about 400 and he returned around 200. Then he had the audacity to say "i feel embarrassed that you're asking for your money back, my face is red" right? Its my money.

 

Anyways he demands that i be home at a certain time so he could return my money and a few shirts i gave to him. I said im not at home ill be home in 30. I get home and he says "too late im not in town anymore". So i get mad and say that ill be going to his parents place to get my money back. Anyways he got scared and starts going crazyyy. He comes to my apartment and my mums there. My mum takes the money and says "ella doesn't need the shirt back those are yours to keep". So he takes the shirts with him. Oh btw one shirt that i gave him he gave to his friend, i know this because I've seen his friends FB page and him posing in it.

 

So he goes out and has fun and takes a trip with his friend while im heart broken, he puts all the blame on me and has an amazing tme without me. My cousin who doesn't have him on Instagram told me that he has put a photo of himself on IG on the beach having fun. Btw the photo just popped up in the recommended section. She never showed the photo to me.

 

So we go NC and i come back to Australia in August, we've had NC so far its been months. I unfriended him from FB straight after the break up, back in July.

 

Right after new years this year I went to check his FB (which is private and so is mine) and it was there, i could see his profile. Then a couple of days later for some reason i search his name up on FB and hes not there. I log on to my mums account and his name and profile are there. Meaning he has blocked me. I also noticed he has unfriended my cousins who he has known since they were little kids and who also live right next to him. He had them on FB after new years but when he blocked me he must have unfriended them too. But he kept my other cousins, weird right. He blocked me on IG the same day he blocked me on FB except when he blocked me on IG he unblocked me the next day. His and mine IG are also private.

 

My question is why did he block me on FB after so long and why did he block me then unblock me on Instagram?

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First of all this guy is immature, indecisive and relies heavily on his parents, he also lives with them. He Has no car and no job and has not finished uni, Sleeps till 1pm and is on Facebook till 5am.

 

Who cares why he blocked you!

 

The bigger question is why you considered marrying this man-child.

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Who cares why he blocked you!

 

The bigger question is why you considered marrying this man-child.

 

I honestlty don't know. At the time i really wanted to. But i guess he did me a favour. Can we please just stick to the topic of my question. Thank you

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He's probably got a girlfriend now and doesn't want you seeing any of it.

 

In the end, the bigger question is why this matters to you, anyway. He's an immature tool, based on your description.

 

Are you still in love with him?

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He's probably got a girlfriend now and doesn't want you seeing any of it.

 

In the end, the bigger question is why this matters to you, anyway. He's an immature tool, based on your description.

 

Are you still in love with him?

 

Thats what i thought. Either that or a switch flipped and he got angry and deleted me. I thought about the GF thing but he has told me he's had gfs and never posted photos with them or changed his relationship status. Which is true because i had him on FB for ages and all his photos are with his guy friends. He has also told me he doesnt run after any of past gfs nor did he care what they did after he broke up with them.

 

No i dont love him i dont even know if i ever truly loved him but i did care about him. Usually i would be the one doing the blocking if i really loved someone because it would hurt seeing their profile but with this guy that wasnt the case. Nor do i want to contact him. I am just really curious what is going through his head.

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It sounds like you have a hard time letting go. Try being honest with yourself first. Obsessing wont change the outcome. Accept that it's over, do your grieving, then you can move on.

 

The truth is, you probably showed up as a suggested friend on his list because you searched him, and he got irritated, even though his profile is private.

 

Keep it moving. He's gone. There are other guys out there.

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He didn't want you to ever contact him again because he thinks (correctly) you are stalking him

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It sounds like you have a hard time letting go. Try being honest with yourself first. Obsessing wont change the outcome. Accept that it's over, do your grieving, then you can move on.

 

The truth is, you probably showed up as a suggested friend on his list because you searched him, and he got irritated, even though his profile is private.

 

Keep it moving. He's gone. There are other guys out there.

 

I am being honest. I honestly want to know why he did that i guess on some level i still do care but not enough to want him back.

 

That is a possible reason

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He didn't want you to ever contact him again because he thinks (correctly) you are stalking him

 

I wasnt stalking him though. I am pretty sure everyone FB stalks..if you've never done it (doesnt have to be stalking an ex) then you are lying.

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I honestlty don't know. At the time i really wanted to. But i guess he did me a favour. Can we please just stick to the topic of my question. Thank you

 

Sorry but why post an essay about it all then? You could have asked the fb question in one paragraph.

 

Based on what you wrote i would advise some therapy.

As you are based in Oz this need not cost much/anything.

Why would you commit to marrying someone online, then commit to spending a month with them, then when they are obviously a terrible prospect still want to go ahead with it and now still stalking them...

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