Am I in the wrong here with my girlfriend?

[iope]

I have an incredibly good looking girlfriend, who is also beautiful inside obviously as I wouldn't be with her however I have noticed requires a bit of attention or it seems that way. We have had previous arguments about me looking at other girls and then what happened today, which essentially falls back on wanting attention or maybe I am in the wrong. I went out with my girlfriend today and we went back to her house, we were cuddling and ended up having sex. We then showered, I got out and said I wanted to lay on the couch. She said while she does her hair in the bedroom, I can just lay there and we can go out after. I decided to stay on my phone and lay in her bed and semi watch her (or at least I thought so)

 

A parcel of hers arrived, which she went and got and brought back. I admit I didn't seem that interested, continued to stay on my phone and then she went out of the room again to help her mother. She came back and asked what I was doing. She then sat next to me and watched a 30 second vid with me, which she didn't seem interested by so I said "bored?" She said yes I found the vid boring but not as bored as you look, sitting on your phone. Then walked out of the room. I didn't follow her. She came back a few moments later, semi grabbed the phone out of my hand and asked what I was doing that was so interesting, that it seemed like I didn't want to talk to her/wasn't interested in what she was doing and that she would never come to my house, lay in my bed and stay on her phone. We went out for dinner afterwards with both our parents and her parents asked us both what was wrong.

 

I apologised but at the same time, I feel like I wasn't doing anything wrong.

[basil67]

It's hard to say whether or not you were doing anything wrong. Perhaps she feels you spend too much time on your phone?

 

However, the thing which is most apparent is that she has extremely poor conflict resolution skills. She obviously has a problem with your phone use, but instead of raising it in a constructive manner, she is rude to you. She's basically approached this in one of the worst ways possible. Had she said to you something like "I feel x when you're on your phone frequently" this whole thing would probably have a different outcome.

 

For what it's worth, the appropriate response when someone takes a rude swipe is to say "is there something wrong?". That said, always regard poor conflict resolution skills as a red flag. Continue with caution.

 

Oh, and don't apologise if you don't think you did anything wrong. Simply seek more information about why they feel as they do.

[Simple Logic]

Silly GF, she probably thought you were there to spend time with her.