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My ex and I were dating for almost a year, and best friends for 7 months before that. The relationship was awesome, every time we were together the love was everywhere and it felt amazing. My parents were going through a lot and it had its effect on me...I was very hurt by my mom getting cancer and my dad becoming very ill. The stress and emotional effects carried into our relationship and he couldn't be in a relationship with me as he said I have too many problems with family, and so did he. His brother walked out of his life 3 years prior and he visited him recently, and it caused my ex to miss his brother like crazy, but his brother blocked him on everything after the visit which hurt him. We took a week break so he can see what he feels not being in a relationship and he said he was feelings happier...I expected this as my stresses were effecting him. We do go to the same school, we haven't talk since but he does stare at me quite often, many people have pointed it out. I know the stress made him "lose" love for me, but I believe the stress was just causing it to be covered. I understand that I can't be with him until our issues are solved, but I truly do love this man, he truly loved me. I do not 100% expect him to come back, and I don't want to. But there is something in my gut telling me he will come back, and I'm trying to ignore it and work on myself. Our relationship didn't end because of cheating, abuse, or fighting, we had a pretty good one. We had arguments and all that but we NEVER would scream or cuss at eachother. He always said family is first so I believe he just wants to get his family life settled before coming back also. I remember a while back I went to a psychotherapist with my brother to help him through his break up, and he told him that most dumpers revisit the idea of getting back together, and most of the time they never do because the timing is simply off. Often times it goes down like this, dumpee wants them back, gets turned down, they move on, dumper finds interest, too late. It's very rare to see the two find the right timing. I understand that some dumpers never look back due to things like cheating and abuse, but if you really clicked with your ex, there is a chance. My ex had a great connection with me, it was awesome. I'm going to continue no contact and work on my issues. Tell me what you think about my situation.

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