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Hi everyone!

I need an honest opinion about this situation:

I met this guy only once when I was out with a friend. He texted me on Tuesday to set up a date and he chose an expensive steakhouse (a little bit weird for a first date). I said I am free on Friday which he responded that he will make reservation at this restaurant at 7pm.

I answered "great, please confirm it with me on Thursday just so I know we are still on". Thursday was yesterday and no text, as well as no text today (its noon on Friday).

Im wondering if I should say something among the lines that Im trying to plan my evening and am assuming we are not meeting up but that sound passive aggressive haha

Thank you for help,

xx

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Just ask if he's still on I guess? I mean it is weird to say you're making a reservation and then not follow up.

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yeah seems like a red flag, but as a woman I know we tend to overthink things so not sure

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yeah seems like a red flag, but as a woman I know we tend to overthink things so not sure

 

I definitely would have my eyebrows raised up as well. Sounds like a potential stand up, but it doesn't hurt to ask.

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Hi everyone!

I need an honest opinion about this situation:

I met this guy only once when I was out with a friend. He texted me on Tuesday to set up a date and he chose an expensive steakhouse (a little bit weird for a first date). I said I am free on Friday which he responded that he will make reservation at this restaurant at 7pm.

I answered "great, please confirm it with me on Thursday just so I know we are still on". Thursday was yesterday and no text, as well as no text today (its noon on Friday).

Im wondering if I should say something among the lines that Im trying to plan my evening and am assuming we are not meeting up but that sound passive aggressive haha

Thank you for help,

xx

 

Call the restaurant and see if there is a reservation made under his name . . . if not, you don't bother to check with him. If he calls you last minute, you don't answer.

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omg I wish I thought of that!!!! I texted him before I read this reply and he answered with only one word " Yes".... weird one

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odd no response until you asked maybe he figured if it's a date its set in stone, if he's a man of his word then you got yourself a good one, enjoy your steak.

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Hi everyone!

I need an honest opinion about this situation:

I met this guy only once when I was out with a friend. He texted me on Tuesday to set up a date and he chose an expensive steakhouse (a little bit weird for a first date). I said I am free on Friday which he responded that he will make reservation at this restaurant at 7pm.

I answered "great, please confirm it with me on Thursday just so I know we are still on". Thursday was yesterday and no text, as well as no text today (its noon on Friday).

Im wondering if I should say something among the lines that Im trying to plan my evening and am assuming we are not meeting up but that sound passive aggressive haha

Thank you for help,

xx

 

No.

Block him and forget about him. Stop trying to play the nice girl with a guy who's blown you off. It's a simple request for him to confirm your date--and people who are cognizant of other people's time act like it.

 

My ex was notorious for never confirming plans and acting like he shouldn't have to do that... but oh! if a business contact he'd had plans with didn't confirm, he'd have a hissy fit over it. I would tell him "now you know how it feels to be punted downfield... karma's a b, innit?"

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