punkin420 Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Okay, so he said "I love you" and then took it back a second later. What is this? We have been friends for about 4 -5 years but only dating for a lil more then a week! WHY WOULD HE SAY IT TO ME. Let me recap... I was saying good bye to him - giving kisses and such... and he said I love you... I looked at him for 1/2 a second and he said "Oh ****, I didn't mean to say that...sorry" and he kept appologizing. I said it was okay, and kind of made a joke out of it... as did he. Then he said he's used to telling me he loves me as a friend. Is it hard for him to distinguish between the friend and girlfriend in me? This guy is so in love with being in love... that it scares me that he said it already. He just got out of a 2 year relationship... yes I know.. too soon for another one.. but I'm asking for disaster here- he CANT BE ALONE. I have such strong feelings for him, and he claims he has the same for me. But.. love.. after a week? Even if he does love me as a friend it's a completely different level to love as a girlfriend. I'm confusssssed! help? Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 it sounds like he didn't really mean it, it just slipped out. i don't think it's a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 I had a girlfriend tell me one time that she loved me on the second date.. It was an accident .. We were at the movies and we had to split up to go to the restrooms and she just blurted out love you to me.. I used to kid her about it .. She had a few drinks and I think she reverted back to her old boyfriend days Link to post Share on other sites
katty Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 I can so relate to your incident only because I come from a family that tells one another constantly when getting off the phone, saying Goodbye, Goodnight, etc. that we love one another. True Story...I did almost the same thing a couple of weeks ago to my now ex, I had been taking care of my niece and nephew for an entire week and one night a few nights later I was staying over with my bf and he got up around 4 am with a sore back, I was still half asleep when he was telling me this and I automatically started asking if I could do anything to help and he got back in the bed and I ask if he was feeling any better and he replied yes I am I then replied with Good, OK Good Night I love you. Talk about waking up completely I stood straight up in the bed and I quickly said OMG, I didn't mean that I think I was thinking I was talking to Bryan (my nephew). My bf laughed at me and said Hey how can you tell a person you love them and take it back so quickly? I was so embarrassed, I even worried about it all day the next day. Later he wanted to talk about it and he started teasing me about it and then went on to tell me that it wasn't the first time I had said that to him when I was half asleep. I can see how your bf could easily slip up and tell you that especially if he was use to telling you as a friend but now those words would have a whole new meaning. I think he honestly slipped up and didn't mean to say it, or he actually meant to say it but saw your reaction (our own facial expressions have a way of telling on us) and decided to take it back as a slip up. Just take it as a slip up, my family is so use to saying I love you as the last thing that I am in a bad habit of it and once even told my secretary and even worse once told a sales rep. If I was you I wouldn't think anymore about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Icarus Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 What's the big deal? He's said it to you before as a friend, right? Did he not mean it then? Is he supposed to stop saying it now that you're dating? Sure, it might seem a little awkward, but if it's sincere ... why worry about it. Yeah I know the distinction between romantic love and loving a friend. Relax, don't make a big deal out of it ... he explained what he meant so leave it at that for now. If/When he does tell you he loves you in the romantic sense, you WILL know what he means, and there will be no mistake about it. Link to post Share on other sites
punkin420 Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Yeah i'm not really freaking out about it... i'm an over exaggerater when I write. I'm sure it was a slip up. But either way, he does need to distinguish between girlfriend and friend. Just because were dating now doesnt mean he has to stop loving me as a friend... but he cant say it to me anymore, it wasnt an all the time thing - he said it like 1 or 2 times maybe... online... in the sence of "i love you, u're a great person"... i dont know... i'm not going to mention anything - well see what happens... if he does it again then we need to talk... Thanks for the advice<3 Link to post Share on other sites
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