jdfg94 Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. When we met she was already in a friends with benefits type relationship with another guy. She said at first that she would end it with him but kept putting it off. Its been 7 months now and she doesn't seem to want to end it with him. They usually meet up 2 or 3 times a week. Aside from that we have a great relationship and get on real well and have a lot in common but I'm not sure if she just likes the friendship with me. It feels like I do all the boyfriend stuff but he comes in and gets the sex. I know some people like open relationships or cuckold relationships but I don't think i really want to be in that type of relationship. I really don't want to loose her though so if that is the what she wants maybe I should let her. I am so torn at the moment please help me.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 How exactly is she your girlfriend if she is sleeping with someone else? She either doesn't feel you are her boyfriend, or guess what? You are being cuckolded. Where the heck is your backbone? Sorry, OP. This one isn't going to end well for you. 5
BaileyB Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 Yeah, she's not really your girlfriend if she's sleeping with someone else... And, she wouldn't be sleeping with someone else after seven months if she was really invested and committed to your relationship. Sorry.
5x5 Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. When we met she was already in a friends with benefits type relationship with another guy. She said at first that she would end it with him but kept putting it off. Its been 7 months now and she doesn't seem to want to end it with him. They usually meet up 2 or 3 times a week. For future reference, if this ever happens to you again, you say "get rid of him" and walk immediately if she (whoever she is) doesn't. All of us are replaceable (and that includes women), if you don't like it dump her. Aside from that we have a great relationship and get on real well and have a lot in common but I'm not sure if she just likes the friendship with me. It feels like I do all the boyfriend stuff but he comes in and gets the sex. Are you sure your "girlfriend" knows that she is your girlfriend? That asked do you get any of that sex, or does she just share it with her (other) man? I know some people like open relationships or cuckold relationships but I don't think i really want to be in that type of relationship. I really don't want to loose her though so if that is the what she wants maybe I should let her. Maybe... WTF! Wishy washy people seem to get run over a lot. If you don't like something don't put up with it. I am so torn at the moment please help me. The difference between you and people that don't really suffer this nonsense, is that those who don't suffer it aren't torn when making decisions that benefit themselves. Do something about it or don't. If you want out of this nonsense, you have to help yourself by applying your own backbone. Don't be afraid, stand up lest you be choked.
BAcK Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 Is she really your girlfriend? I mean why would she sleep with someone else if she already has you. It does not make any sense. Walk away. Be a man. 1
winny Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I know some people like open relationships or cuckold relationships but I don't think i really want to be in that type of relationship. If you don't want it then don't be in such a relationship..!!! I really don't want to loose her though so if that is the what she wants maybe I should let her. She has somehow manipulated you... and made you feel that you cannot live without her... you need to break free. There are other girls in the world who will treat you 1000 times better. But unless you get out of this situation you cannot find someone else. Break up with her... she is no good. 3
DarrenB Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I'm astonished you allowed such absurd behavior... I understand that you might have a strong attachment or connection with her, but having a FWB but also claiming to be your partner is just not to be tolerated in any way, shape or form. If she cannot call things off with her FWB, then you must give her the ultimatum that if it continues, then you are gone. If she refuses to, well then that's her loss. You're a human at the end of the day, not some play toy that can be thrown away then played with repeatedly. 2
HumanMachine Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 You've been with your 'girlfriend' for 7 months and she's been sleeping with someone else all along? How does it feel knowing that you've never been good enough to satisfy her? She's taking you for a complete mug. 4
chphan Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. When we met she was already in a friends with benefits type relationship with another guy. She said at first that she would end it with him but kept putting it off. Its been 7 months now and she doesn't seem to want to end it with him. They usually meet up 2 or 3 times a week. Aside from that we have a great relationship and get on real well and have a lot in common but I'm not sure if she just likes the friendship with me. It feels like I do all the boyfriend stuff but he comes in and gets the sex. I know some people like open relationships or cuckold relationships but I don't think i really want to be in that type of relationship. I really don't want to loose her though so if that is the what she wants maybe I should let her. I am so torn at the moment please help me. Hey OP, news flash. I know in your mind that you think you are in a relationship and have a girlfriend. But here's the truth, you are not her boyfriend and you aren't in a relationship. Reality is that you are one of her FWB with the other guy. There's no open relationship here. LOL. I heard of guys being chump but you are in a whole new list all by yourself. You don't have any self respect or self esteem to see it. LOL. 1
Sweetfish Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I hope if you ever have kids you dont teach them this behavior
mikeylo Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 She said she would but hasn't AND she won't. Move on dude.
ElizabethIII Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 Interesting first post. A semi willing cuckcold. If there are people like this you just dump. You cant change them.
joseb Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 Interesting first post. A semi willing cuckcold. Indeed. Hard to believe... hope it's not a one off and op returns...
kendahke Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. When we met she was already in a friends with benefits type relationship with another guy. She said at first that she would end it with him but kept putting it off. Its been 7 months now and she doesn't seem to want to end it with him. They usually meet up 2 or 3 times a week. Aside from that we have a great relationship and get on real well and have a lot in common but I'm not sure if she just likes the friendship with me. It feels like I do all the boyfriend stuff but he comes in and gets the sex. I know some people like open relationships or cuckold relationships but I don't think i really want to be in that type of relationship. I really don't want to loose her though so if that is the what she wants maybe I should let her. I am so torn at the moment please help me. Torn? What's there to be torn about? She's not giving up her FWB. She doesn't need sex from you. Are you OK being her chum? If not, then you need to leave and in the future, never get into a relationship with someone as messy as this chick.
Redhead14 Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. When we met she was already in a friends with benefits type relationship with another guy. She said at first that she would end it with him but kept putting it off. Its been 7 months now and she doesn't seem to want to end it with him. They usually meet up 2 or 3 times a week. Aside from that we have a great relationship and get on real well and have a lot in common but I'm not sure if she just likes the friendship with me. It feels like I do all the boyfriend stuff but he comes in and gets the sex. I know some people like open relationships or cuckold relationships but I don't think i really want to be in that type of relationship. I really don't want to loose her though so if that is the what she wants maybe I should let her. I am so torn at the moment please help me. GET A GRIP! I really don't want to loose her though -- You can't lose what you don't have . . . She's not your girlfriend. I do all the boyfriend stuff but he comes in and gets the sex. -- Never give more than you're getting from a relationship -- emotionally or physically. if she just likes the friendship with me -- An FWB doesn't typically take the buddy out, doesn't pay for stuff, doesn't shower them with other attention and doesn't have to nor would they put up with any BS. You are allowing yourself to be used. IS THIS FUN FOR YOU???? I know some people like open relationships or cuckold relationships -- That fine for THOSE people, not you. You want more than she is willing to give you. Don't accept less than you want and deserve. Tell her to take a hike.
Simple Logic Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. When we met she was already in a friends with benefits type relationship with another guy. She said at first that she would end it with him but kept putting it off. Its been 7 months now and she doesn't seem to want to end it with him. They usually meet up 2 or 3 times a week. Aside from that we have a great relationship and get on real well and have a lot in common but I'm not sure if she just likes the friendship with me. It feels like I do all the boyfriend stuff but he comes in and gets the sex. I know some people like open relationships or cuckold relationships but I don't think i really want to be in that type of relationship. I really don't want to loose her though so if that is the what she wants maybe I should let her. I am so torn at the moment please help me. She must be a really busy lady dating you and seeing her FWB 2-3 days a week.
Redhead14 Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 Sounds like she has 2 FWB's. He said she doesn't give HIM sex . . . (or at least not very much apparently).
gorf Posted January 15, 2017 Posted January 15, 2017 (edited) She said at first that she would end it with him but kept putting it off. Its been 7 months now and she doesn't seem to want to end it with him. They usually meet up 2 or 3 times a week. I really don't want to loose her though so if that is the what she wants maybe I should let her. It really amazes me sometimes at how black and white women make it about their intentions and interest level, and the guy just cant let go. Instead he questions his own values and boundaries. OP why lower your standards for her? Cause you want to be with a woman bedding another guy several times a week? And you arent even ok with that... thats not going to change, even if you accept her arrangement for him. Your bending wont last, it will just be a really really hard time on you emotionally. Why do that to yourself. Its been 7 months, she is still with the guy. What if tomorrow she said she was done with him, and then got back with him a week later. Would she be cheating on you? Depends on where and why you set your own standards, and then apply them to her. After 7 months, she isn't going to change for you, not for any length of time anyway. So really ask yourself what you want out of her and why its so hard to let go of a woman who is with another man. I agree with the others before you, in her eyes, you are just another FWB. She doesnt want a monogamous 1/1 relationship and 7 months of this proves it. Edited January 15, 2017 by gorf 1
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