Would you dump a guy if he had a hobby of going to adult clubs & shops?

[LoveFiend]

I been in a relationship for about a month and when I was single to cure my lonliness of being single I would go to adult clubs and shops. I would go and tip dancers on stage, talk to girls, get a beer. I would also like to go to bikini bars and the Tilted Kilt. I would go into adult shops just to look around every now and then, sometimes I would buy something if I really liked it.

 

I have had an urge to visit those adult clubs & shops, but have not while I have been in a relationship I don't want lose my girlfriend. I have driven by a few times and been extremely tempted, but then I think of the consequences of my behavior which could possibly lead to losing my girlfriend so I don't.

 

I know a lot of married guys go to those clubs and shops and the wives don't care.

 

For the women out there would you break up with a guy if you found out he has been going to adult clubs & shops?

Edited January 13, 2017 by LoveFiend

[ZayKayWill]

Not sure why that would be worth breaking up over. That's like having a girl break up with you because you like to watch porn.

[aileD]

Drive by with your girlfriend and seee if she'd like to join you.

 

Things like this only become a problem for a relationship when they are hidden or kept a secret.

 

Ive been to strip clubs with my H before and it's fun and exciting and usually ends up in hot sex later

[ZayKayWill]

Drive by with your girlfriend and seee if she'd like to join you.

 

Things like this only become a problem for a relationship when they are hidden or kept a secret.

 

Ive been to strip clubs with my H before and it's fun and exciting and usually ends up in hot sex later

 

Aw ye!

[carolann]

If my husband had made going to strip clubs his "hobby" I doubt I would have married him as I wouldn't be interested in a man that needs that kind of entertainment on a frequent basis.

Now going occasionally for a bachelor party or something like that I'm ok with.... although there are some really trashy clubs in our part of the state that are more like a brothel.

He can go to the shops as much as he likes as long as he gets me something too:bunny:

[Simple Logic]

I been in a relationship for about a month and when I was single to cure my lonliness of being single I would go to adult clubs and shops. I would go and tip dancers on stage, talk to girls, get a beer. I would also like to go to bikini bars and the Tilted Kilt. I would go into adult shops just to look around every now and then, sometimes I would buy something if I really liked it.

 

I have had an urge to visit those adult clubs & shops, but have not while I have been in a relationship I don't want lose my girlfriend. I have driven by a few times and been extremely tempted, but then I think of the consequences of my behavior which could possibly lead to losing my girlfriend so I don't.

 

I know a lot of married guys go to those clubs and shops and the wives don't care.

 

For the women out there would you break up with a guy if you found out he has been going to adult clubs & shops?

 

"Hey Janet, what are your new BF's hobbies? "He goes to strip clubs and sex shops". Sound normal to you?

[ZayKayWill]

"Hey Janet, what are your new BF's hobbies? "He goes to strip clubs and sex shops". Sound normal to you?

 

A hobby is something you do that brings you pleasure. Not sure why it sounds like a bad thing. Maybe if it was his only hobby...

[Scarlett.O'hara]

It doesn't matter how other women feel about it. What matters is how your girlfriend feels about it.

 

The only way to know that is to ask her what she thinks about it, and specifically how she would feel about you doing it.

 

Base your decision from there.

[Gloria25]

Now and then I go into adult shops and/or online adult stores out of curiosity or to buy something but don't do it on the regular like a "hobby".

 

I do watch porn on the regular, but that's to get off.

 

So, to the OP, just wondering...you mentioned strip clubs and restaurants where the women wear revealing clothing. Do you patronize these places to ogle women rather than a simple "hobby"? I mean, even if it's a hobby, we all get something out of a "hobby", so what are you getting out of your "hobby"?

 

Cuz, I gather while most women are aware of guys looking at girly magazines and stuff - it's another thing to always wanting to be looking at other women besides your woman.

Edited January 13, 2017 by Gloria25

[Gaeta]

Woodwork is a hobby, not visiting strip clubs and sex shops.

 

If this is something you need to indulge in then it's better you share that with your girlfriend soon. Dating is about getting to know each other, not about hiding who we really are. She might be ok with it or she might not, it's her decision. This is something you should share early so you avoid big disappointment when it's a deal breaker for the lady.

 

Personally I would not date a man that needs to spend his free time at strip clubs and porn shop. I think the magic word here is that you need to do this. And if only 1 month of not going is hard to handle I think you may be dealing with an addiction here.

 

If an acquaintance of mine told me he/she saw my BF at a strip club I'd die of embarrassment.

[wmacbride]

I went to one of those types of clubs many years ago with a boyfriend, as he enjoyed them, and I wanted to see what one was really like.

 

He liked it, I was bored, but ended up having a really good conversation with one of the dancers about her son and some problems he was having in school. She was a nice lady.

 

 

Personally, I don't know that I could see going to strip bars and adult clubs as a "hobby", but to each his own.

[Haydn]

Personally i prefer `Partnership whist`

[dreamingoftigers]

I went to one of those types of clubs many years ago with a boyfriend, as he enjoyed them, and I wanted to see what one was really like.

 

He liked it, I was bored, but ended up having a really good conversation with one of the dancers about her son and some problems he was having in school. She was a nice lady.

 

 

Personally, I don't know that I could see going to strip bars and adult clubs as a "hobby", but to each his own.

 

I went to one as well as was struck by how truly boring it was.

 

One of the funnier bits was watching the stripper pull out a magnetic stick at the end to gather all of the twonies and loonies off of the stage. Pretty degrading too I guess. The whole thing was just ugh.

 

I wouldn't date a guy into them. I'm not working my arse off to have some other girl shake her tail feather in front of him so he can throw our earned finances at her. Screw that. (I would only date marriage-minded monogamous men, so, you know, the 15% of them that are out there).

[GunslingerRoland]

It depends on the woman and it depends on the situation. If you and your buddies have a monthly guys night out at the strip club, you guys play pool, hang out, and watch the dancers a bit, I think a lot of women would be okay with that. I don't think my wife would really care that much.

 

But if you are going every week or more, by yourself, sitting by the stage, drooling over these women, and then trying to chat them up afterwards, then good luck finding a girl who finds that to be appropriate behavior.

 

As for the sex shop,what are you shopping for there? Just curious because most of the toys/outfits are more geared towards women. Or are you talking about porn, in which case, who buys porn at a store in 2017?