avp-95 Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 We were acquaintances with a mutual friend. The message got to me that he thought I was perfect. I have very low self-worth, often feel anxious and down, am very avoidant by personality, fear rejection and have been questioning my sexuality forever (currently identify as bisexual). So I wasn't really looking for anything, kind of resigned that no one will like me/would be put off once they got to know me. I have a habit of running away from people and haven't had a relationship. I was was worried about leading him on. But we started going on dates and I liked him. He was a gentleman. I was thought he was beautiful. I didn't want to rip his clothes off at first but felt a deep connection and after about a month we started sleeping together. Then we had a few weeks of not seeing each other when we went away for the holidays. Limited texting, fairly equal effort. At first I was really attached to him, probably from the sex, everything reminded me of him. Once we were back we went out for dinner and had a great time. But now I don't know what to do. We only really messaged to organise meeting up. He used to initiate and I haven't heard from him since. And I know it works both ways but when I last saw him I was talking about our next date, he liked my idea but said "next week" which seems so far off, and I was a bit hurt. So I feel reluctant to reach out again. I don't want to suffocate him if he's busy. And we both don't like texting. But I want him to want to spend time with me. We haven't had a talk about if we're seeing other people. I'm aware this leaves me just guessing which is making me go crazy. I want to ask when we're in private and if he wants to see other people then I want to know because then I'll finish things and move on. Should I text him? I want to be a chilled girl but also not to be taken for a mug.
smackie9 Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 You chill for no one. If you really like him and he isn't receptive to it then you two are just on different pages. If he was the one, he would be all over it, saying how much he misses you, and all that romantic crap....but it's not happening. Stop hoping, and start looking for someone else.
Author avp-95 Posted January 12, 2017 Author Posted January 12, 2017 Thank you for replying. I do like him but I think he could not be being receptive to it because I am not making it obvious. He's introduced me to his friends, and he asked me to visit in the holidays - which I didn't kind of rejected as I thought our lack of communication weird, but I didn't tell him why. Basically I've been bad at communicating because I'm rubbish at this stuff. He also hasn't had a relationship. I know I am making excuses. But if I just let go I'd feel I was to blame. Is it silly to meet up again and initiate a serious chat? If he then said he didn't want anything serious at least I'd know!
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