elchupanibre Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Late last year I asked out a colleague who I was good friends with, and she rejected me. Things have been fine since then between the both of us and we've pretty much gone back to how it was, but now I want to try to avoid her as looking at her or being around her causes me to feel quite ****ty. To make things worse, she sits close to a male coworker - who is also a friend of mine - and seems to get along really well with him. She seems to get on with him much better than she does with me. And that rapport she has with him makes me jealous at times. But it's tough to avoid them as they come to my desk from time to time and try and talk to me and so on. So I'd want to know how do I go about building distance between me and her? The other guy makes things tough. Any advice as to what I should do from here?
Redhead14 Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Late last year I asked out a colleague who I was good friends with, and she rejected me. Things have been fine since then between the both of us and we've pretty much gone back to how it was, but now I want to try to avoid her as looking at her or being around her causes me to feel quite ****ty. To make things worse, she sits close to a male coworker - who is also a friend of mine - and seems to get along really well with him. She seems to get on with him much better than she does with me. And that rapport she has with him makes me jealous at times. But it's tough to avoid them as they come to my desk from time to time and try and talk to me and so on. So I'd want to know how do I go about building distance between me and her? The other guy makes things tough. Any advice as to what I should do from here? It's been a year since she rejected you for A date??? C'mon. Just don't entertain much of a conversation if they come by your desk. Be busy. You've been at least pleasant with each other for the last year. Now you're being jealous of another guy? Be a grown up and simply accept that she didn't accept a date from you a year ago. This should also teach you that it's not a good idea to ask for or date a co-worker. You need this job and you have to see her. Be professional and at least somewhat cordial. She owes you nothing . . . 1
fireflywy Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Be mature, dont engage beyond simple courtesies. Get out there and date other women. Eventually you'll be having so much fun that you will care less about her and who she sits with.
winny Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Best solution for this is for you to make some new female friends at work and outside. That will help you move on from this infatuation.
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