Grey40 Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 Happens to me all the time when I'm playing private parties for older people. They definitely find you attractive, they're not going to say anything to you if they didn't think that way. It depends how they say it and body language too. If they are acting like your family members and relatives do around the holidays (kissing on the cheek, "wow look at you!") then it's just friendly. Talk to them a bit, Just ask one of em out. Or try and get their number and see what happens. Then you'll know for sure. The only reason I never tried to make a move when it's happened to me is because I knew they were married. If you know one of these women are currently single or separated, go for it
stillafool Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 Well, and also because it's not true that women can "get away with this behavior while they KNOW a man cannot." EDIT: Forget it, not worth it. Suffice to say, this ^ is accurate and unless you've been on this gender side of it, don't assume. You have NO idea. I'm a woman and I've seen women in the work place touch men in a way that would be looked upon as inappropriate if they did the same.
Articher Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 Whelp. Maybe I'm not the right person to ask since this exact scenario happened to me and it was in no way motherly. Lol. I was the older woman by the way and the situation ultimately crashed and burned after an intense 10 months. Here is the link if you are interested: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/532535-so-angry-he-didn-t-even-say-goodbye Even though we are older, we are not dead. We appreciate a hot, young guy as much as the next woman. I did have that bad experience with the 26 year old guy and learned my lesson. And yes, there is now a new, super cute youngster at work again. And yes, he stares, pops into my office and invites me out for drinks constantly. But NOPE... I may flirt with him a bit but I learned my lesson. Smile, flirt and go on your merry way P.S. The guy from the link I posted above called me last night out of the blue. I have not seen him in at least 9 months. We chatted for an hour and talked about possibly going on a group vacation with mutual friends to Jamaica in June. He's 28 now. I'm 45... 1
Author Mark1 Posted January 30, 2017 Author Posted January 30, 2017 Whelp. Maybe I'm not the right person to ask since this exact scenario happened to me and it was in no way motherly. Lol. I was the older woman by the way and the situation ultimately crashed and burned after an intense 10 months. Here is the link if you are interested: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/532535-so-angry-he-didn-t-even-say-goodbye Even though we are older, we are not dead. We appreciate a hot, young guy as much as the next woman. I did have that bad experience with the 26 year old guy and learned my lesson. And yes, there is now a new, super cute youngster at work again. And yes, he stares, pops into my office and invites me out for drinks constantly. But NOPE... I may flirt with him a bit but I learned my lesson. Smile, flirt and go on your merry way P.S. The guy from the link I posted above called me last night out of the blue. I have not seen him in at least 9 months. We chatted for an hour and talked about possibly going on a group vacation with mutual friends to Jamaica in June. He's 28 now. I'm 45... you should go! 1
bebe23 Posted January 30, 2017 Posted January 30, 2017 OP, they really do think you're attractive. I wish I didn't, but I still am more drawn to late 20's-30's men than I am to men my own age. We are not dead. Actually, I think I have a more "sexual" mind now then when I was 23 or 24. When I went to my 19 year old daughter's Christmas choir concert, I remember seeing a few very attractive male members of that choir and I had to stop looking at them when I realized that they were probably early 20's and I could have given birth to them. 2
Author Mark1 Posted February 13, 2017 Author Posted February 13, 2017 OP, they really do think you're attractive. I wish I didn't, but I still am more drawn to late 20's-30's men than I am to men my own age. We are not dead. Actually, I think I have a more "sexual" mind now then when I was 23 or 24. When I went to my 19 year old daughter's Christmas choir concert, I remember seeing a few very attractive male members of that choir and I had to stop looking at them when I realized that they were probably early 20's and I could have given birth to them. haha, thats hot!
CptInsano Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 I'm a 40 year old woman, I call younger men "cutie" "handsome" "sweetie" "honey" "sugar" all the time. It's not a flirty thing, its just how I am. I call women "honey" and "sweetie" all the time too. Maybe it's the region I live in? It may be just in their nature to do so, it may also be because you are just a little sweetheart to them and they enjoy when you are at work! What a good confidence booster to you, and what a bunch of sweeties you work with You don't happen to be from the southeastern US, or even places like Texas? When travelling for business in Tennessee I was quite prepared to even hug female customers, and "hon" and "sweetie" were just normal ways of addressing on another. A female co-worker from Missouri was much concerned about me being too skinny and tried to feed me any chance she got. Just wondering if Mark1 is maybe running into any of that.
smackie9 Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 (edited) Speaking as a 52 year old woman, if an older mature woman was sexually interested in you, she would be very direct/ blunt about her intentions. Mature women don't play games, we go after what we want and will make it known. That's why we are called cougars....we will pounce! These women are being motherly. They look at you as their baby child. So you are misinterpreting their actions...obviously you never have had attention like this before...that's why you are getting over stimulated. Edited February 13, 2017 by smackie9 4
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 Speaking as a 52 year old woman, if an older mature woman was sexually interested in you, she would be very direct/ blunt about her intentions. Mature women don't play games, we go after what we want and will make it known. That's why we are called cougars....we will pounce! These women are being motherly. They look at you as their baby child. So you are misinterpreting their actions...obviously you never have had attention like this before...that's why you are getting over stimulated. I'm totally getting a motherly vibe too. I get that it's still harassment, technically...I'm not overlooking that. The OP should, if bothered by this behavior, report it without hesitation. However, as to the "why" (even though the "why" would still not be acceptable under company standards, that's just a fact), it does sound very motherly indeed to me. It sounds like the stuff I'd say (except being sure it couldn't possibly come off as sexual/a come-on) to my son's friend who was feeling down about his prospects or something.
Author Mark1 Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 Speaking as a 52 year old woman, if an older mature woman was sexually interested in you, she would be very direct/ blunt about her intentions. Mature women don't play games, we go after what we want and will make it known. That's why we are called cougars....we will pounce! These women are being motherly. They look at you as their baby child. So you are misinterpreting their actions...obviously you never have had attention like this before...that's why you are getting over stimulated. oh ...........
healing light Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 Nope. These women think you're hot. Baking cookies? That's really going out of your way. I don't know any women that tell men they're cute and handsome when they think the guy isn't as a matter of pity. My mom is in her early 60s, looks much younger, and is actively repulsed by guys her own age. Even though she's not dating, she's hoping when she does he will be in his 40s. Ha. Sounds like your interest in them is mutual to me, but I would play it carefully because they're co-workers.
thefooloftheyear Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 Sorry to burst your bubble, but listen to these ladies(at least the one's that are telling you its nothing).... As someone who was once your age and got ,my own share of attention from older women, it wasn't "oh you're cute" it was more like "you have a great ass"...usually followed by a variety of sexual innuendo... The stuff you are talking about is motherly, patronizing, and would probably annoy the shyt of me...You know, like when your aunt used to come over and smush your cheeks or mess up your hair... Want to have some fun with it? Call them on it and see what happens...Ask them if they would meet you for a drink or something..See if they'd be wiling to put their money where their mouth is..If nothing else, they'll quit doing it.... TFY
Highndry Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 Adorable? Really? I can only imagine what would happen if I, a 5o something year old man, were to go around calling the 20 something females in my office "adorable, cute" or any other such thing. I don't even want to imagine what would happen where I to hug them. Egads. Teeny double standard here. Yeah, no doubt! Can you imagine what would happen if the genders were reversed? Pretty disgusting double standard if you ask me.
Highndry Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 OP, they really do think you're attractive. I wish I didn't, but I still am more drawn to late 20's-30's men than I am to men my own age. We are not dead. Actually, I think I have a more "sexual" mind now then when I was 23 or 24. When I went to my 19 year old daughter's Christmas choir concert, I remember seeing a few very attractive male members of that choir and I had to stop looking at them when I realized that they were probably early 20's and I could have given birth to them. I remember camping with my best friend and his girlfriend many moons ago. We were 21 and his girlfriend was 28, which seemed a lot older at the time. She brought her friend from work who was 42, which seemed REALLY old to me at the time. The 42 year old brought her 16 year old daughter and the daughter's female friend. I had my ski boat. We were having beers around the campfire (not the underage girls), and the 42 year old was discreetly coming onto me when her daughter was not around. I had no interest. I liked gals around my age and spent the weekend wakeboarding, wishing her gorgeous daughter wasn't so young. A few weeks later my buddy's girlfriend told me that her friend from work wanted to go out with me sometime. I never took her up on it, I just wasn't into older women at that age.
dude360 Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 Sorry but that's creepy as hell and sounds like sexual harassment to me. You should report them to your HR department. Calling you sweet names, hugging you, kissing you, touching you. If HR does nothing about it, you have a potential lawsuit on your hands.
smackie9 Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 Good lord this thread is just over a year old. Obviously nothing has happened since Feb of last year. 2
Highndry Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 Good lord this thread is just over a year old. Obviously nothing has happened since Feb of last year. Haha, I didn't even realize that. 1
lurker74 Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 OP has fathered 3 children to pre-menopausal women while this thread has been quiet.
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