Penguin_hugs Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Hi there I recently went on an amazing Tinder date. The guy was visiting his parents for christmas in a village near me and we were chatting for a few days before we met up. It was great- went for drinks initially and as things were going well we got dinner in a fancy restaurant. It was so much fun- we had fantastic conversation, basically talking about everything- both of us are a little geeky, we talked about politics and the world and downed a bottle of wine . Then we walked along the beach, made out for a while on the beach and continued back at my place for a bit. It was the most fun I've had on a date in ages. I don't know how realistic it is that things can continue as he doesn't live local to me and I'm moving for a new job next month but I'd really like it to. Anyway, he's in Asia on holiday for a few weeks currently and he said he wanted to see me again when he gets back. Over the last 10 days he's sent me a few messages when he gets internet and I'm finding myself keep checking my phone all the time just incase. Well, I was a little bored and I don't have many photos of him currently so I decided to just google him to see if I could find his linked in profile without it being obvious I had looked him up. And I saw a really professional photo of him and an older woman so I clicked the link and it went to this Lifestyle article about him and his grandmother- who is a famous politician! I did not see that one coming. I read this article about the pair of them where she states that she likes to be kept informed about her grandchildren's sex life and whoever they are dating etc. In the article he stated that he'd only ever introduced one girl to his grandmother. And she is a pretty big deal. And now I've got myself in a sticky situation. Do I just confess that I googled him and found out about his gran? Do I act surprised when he tells me who she is? If I never get introduced to her down the line then I'll know that it means I'm not suitable? I've never been in a situation like this before haha! But I did have an amazing time with this guy and he keeps talking about our next meeting. And I really don't want to put my foot in it. Lets not even go in to the fact that our grandparents are so opposite politically!! I basically can't tell my grandad who I voted for in the last election because my mum warned me that I would be disowned-and his gran is a flipping high profile peer of the party!! 1
kassy Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 This is such a non issue. Forget about it and just carry on dating him for who he is. Don't bring her up unless he does, and I doubt he will any time soon. Just have fun and enjoy the dating. If you get asked to meet her deal with it then, but don't expect it to be for at least a year would be my guess
angel.eyes Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 He's not local and you're about to move elsewhere. Please focus on the bigger picture! The viability of this turning into anything, i.e. a relationship, despite a fun first date, is pretty close to zero. That's all you've had--a FIRST date with a charmer, who is now traveling in Asia. Worrying about meeting his grandmother, her finding out about your sex life,and how your grandparents would take your meeting her is jumping the gun, and beyond irrelevant.
Lovezen_30 Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Don't confess that you Googled him. And definitely practice your surprised face for when he tells you about his grandmother...maybe he wants to get to know you as a human being without the fame tie!
carhill Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 OP, IMO see how things go when he gets back. Don't worry about grandma. Sounds like you're both mobile so enjoy the now and whatever comes later comes. That's part of being mobile. For people who are mobile, the freedom and mobility generally trump relationships until they don't. No way to know exactly if or when that will happen. Keep up the contact if you want, enjoy being single and what happens happens.
Author Penguin_hugs Posted January 12, 2017 Author Posted January 12, 2017 Haha- yeah I guess I was getting a little further ahead in my thoughts! I just so rarely go on dates where I really click with someone and they seem to feel the same! I'm not really moving that far away we'll be a max of 2 hrs away from each other. I've done worse with distance. I'll see how things go- he's back next week from his holiday. I imagine you are right and it isn't something you really bring up on a first date. I think I was just a tad shocked reading about his gran and the sex life thing- I mean I'd rather not share those details! She's not just a politician, she's a famous broadcaster, author, columnist etc. And in a small country like the UK- that is considered famous! If nothing else it's a damn fine photo of him in the newspaper article!
winny Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Get real. Lets have that second date then you can worry. 1
normal person Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 I went out with someone who has a relatively big profile in a particular aspect of the entertainment industry, so I Googled her beforehand and came to some tabloid website which pictured her and a man described as her husband. I was a little surprised and I debated asking her about it, but I held my tongue just to see how it would play out. Eventually she just opened up and says that she was very close to marrying the guy but called it off just before the wedding. So I'm very glad I didn't just accuse her of anything before getting the whole story, I would've looked nuts. Since then I've stopped Googling people ahead of time. The lesson being, don't believe everything you read in the media. If possible, play it cool and don't let him know you've Googled. The other times I've dated prolific people, I've found whatever they want you to know usually comes up organically anyways. It's probably best you hear it from them and not some source of questionable credibility. 1
Miss Peach Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 I would just pretend you didn't see that and keep dating him and see if you like him. In 2-3 years if you're worried you're wasting your time then remember the part about the grandma but you're dating him so focus on whether you want him right now.
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