nobodyIam Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 It will be a year and a month since we broke up in a few days. We were together for nearly 3 years and one day she just said she cant be in relationship any more. Over 2016 she contacted me about every 2 months. Sometimes with pointless questions,sometimes with "we need to talk" narative and once 3 months after breakup by asking me back and then ghosting on me 2 weeks after we were back on talking terms. I haven't heard from her since august. It has been rough,but I was pretty determined to move on. Even started dating some,but it all went south pretty quickly. Now, I miss her like crazy once again. I dont believe I miss the relationship,because I do have a chance for relationship with somebody but I'm not feeling like it. To make it clear,I dont feel the pain any more,at least not like I used to. I dont want to contact her either, I somehow asociated contact with her with pain,so I'm not attracted to contacting her. I do wish she'd come back,even though we're pretty much like strangers now (I dont know anything about her life since 3 months after breakup). I kind of wish this feeling to stop. Can anybody share some words/experience with me? Thank you.
ZayKayWill Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Just keep doing you. It will take as long as it needs to take to move on and heal. Don't overthink it too much otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy like I have.
LastAcorn99 Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 I’m sorry you’re hurting. I know that dealing with emotional pain after a breakup is tough because there is no set schedule or timetable. I would just encourage you to be patient with yourself as you come to accept the end/loss of your relationship. It will come to pass. That said, I suggest you surround yourself with friends and loved ones who can support you during this difficult time. Take care, okay?
Purepony Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 I missed my ex for a very long time after the break up I think almost 2 years but I now realize that I didn't miss her I just missed a relationship and the chemistry that we had in the beginning but things change pretty fast and I didn't miss the bad parts
Purepony Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Now that I'm going through another break up situation with someone else I look back and I'm glad that everything turned out this way because things have gotten much much better and believe me when I tell you they happen for reason
dichotomy Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 (edited) Time. Its hard to hear and accept - but time is the healer. Not the same issue as you - but I was messed up and depressed after my divorce of my cheating wife. I had issues functioning for over a year. Even just getting to work was hard. I can clearly remember the moment I finally made it over the hill and felt better - it was my moment - 1.5 years later. You will have your moment. I am glad you are trying some dating - even if they have not worked out yet. I waited too long to date. One step at a time - keep moving forward. What ever brings you a little comfort, joy, fun, laughter, purpose - seek it out. Working out, a movie, music, ood food, friends, a pet, what ever... treat yourself well. and never ever accept contact from her again. Edited January 12, 2017 by dichotomy
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