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My ex broke up with my almost a month ago, and he is acting strange. During class I can see him look and stare at me CONSTANTLY. I asked one of my buds to watch him...and sure enough every time I look away he sits and watches me. He told his friend he is unsure if he would take me back in the future but has been thinking about it a tiny bit, but is completely unsure. I am ok if he doesn't come back, he has many things he needs to change in order for me to come back. He seems very gloomy throughout the day and hardly talks to him friends anymore. I'm wondering if this is from regret...he is usually very good at stuffing feelings inside, but they seem to be coming out now. He ended things because we both had outside problems effecting our lives which effected us, and that we needed to sort them out. He also said we should find ourselves and that he was happier not in a relationship. I'm not sure what is true but he is giving mixed signals. Any thoughts?

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He's not giving you any signals at all. That is your mind telling you things that you want to believe. So it appears he's staring at you. I think he is probably thinking about all the issue he had when he broke up with you. I doubt his actions are much to do about you as they are about is his own issues that he knows he needs to work on. Don't get me wrong. I'm sure he really liked you and had feelings for you. That's not easy to get over from either side. I'm glad that you are aware that if you two ever tried again, that it would have to be where a lot of time has gone by with no contact and changes have been made. Trying to get back too soon will just have the same ending.

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He's not giving you any signals at all. That is your mind telling you things that you want to believe. So it appears he's staring at you. I think he is probably thinking about all the issue he had when he broke up with you. I doubt his actions are much to do about you as they are about is his own issues that he knows he needs to work on. Don't get me wrong. I'm sure he really liked you and had feelings for you. That's not easy to get over from either side. I'm glad that you are aware that if you two ever tried again, that it would have to be where a lot of time has gone by with no contact and changes have been made. Trying to get back too soon will just have the same ending.

 

I only know he is looking at me by my friends and the corner of my eye. I'm 100% sure he IS looking but I think it's just because he is spacing off or whatever. I definitely don't like being looked at, I don't even want to look at him right now. I know we have a lot of issues that hurt us, but I believe he just needs to destress and sort them out. Same with me. He was very very attatched, if I didn't answer quickly he would send more texts trying to get me to answer. I loved that. We would spend amazing weekends together and shared so many great memories. He started being distant when his brother that left him 3 years ago ask him to hang out for a day, and when he left once again he became super distant and sad. His sister is also leaving for college, so he wants to make all the time with her count. I'm sure he still has feelings because a few days before the break up he sent me a giant paragraph on how much he needed me. I'll see what the future holds, but I don't think I can come back if he has the issues I had with him before. I improved my optimism and send worth greatly. This break up didn't hurt, it made me learn about myself.

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The title is supposed to be "My ex is confusing me"

Sorry for the type

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You cannot project YOUR feelings onto him.

You said he had outside problems, maybe they are what are making him feel down atm and nothing whatsoever to do with regret...

He has told you he is happier not in a relationship, so for your own sake and sanity, best to take him at face value and move on with your own life.

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You cannot project YOUR feelings onto him.

You said he had outside problems, maybe they are what are making him feel down atm and nothing whatsoever to do with regret...

He has told you he is happier not in a relationship, so for your own sake and sanity, best to take him at face value and move on with your own life.

 

He said he needs to sort out his problems first, and that he needs to heal 100% before coming back to me. I agree I should do the same. I'm not sure if 100% moving on will be a good idea for me, maybe if I reach a state where I won't care if he stays or leaves will be best

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