leogirl876 Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Even if for conversation sake it was all legit. I couldn't date someone who didn't contact me for 2 weeks after a date. That would leave me with an icky feeling and I'd never feel good about going out with him. The guys that I've had the most success with are the ones that stay in regular contact and ask me out on another date either at the end of the date or within a day or two of the date by saying "when can I see you again?" I wouldn't give this guy the time of day. If you do, keep him as a very low priority option when you have nothing else to do unless or until you shows you he's willing to put more effort in. But my feelings are he's probably seeing lots of other women and that's why he was so busy that he couldn't see or contact you. 1
smackie9 Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Op you can read into it anyway you like and take whatever action you so desire. At this point you and everyone else is just "assuming".
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Of course it can be. Of course some people might say "If a guy likes you, he's never busy. He will move mountains and swim seas to be with you. He's saying his busy because he has a date lined up every day for the next few weeks. He'll never be into you, just stringing you along. Dump that chump! " ...but he could just be busy with work. One text somewhere before two weeks are up, ONE measly text, is hardly moving mountains or swimming seas. He could have done that sitting on the toilet. Or putting down Pokémon Go for three seconds. Or not swiping to check out that hilarious jujitsu kitten meme. Or not swiping on Tinder. Nobody is THAT busy at work. Nobody is two solid weeks, literally no breaks or downtime busy. I mean this giy isn't with a medi al MASH unit during two solid weeks of active shelling while simultaneously finishing a paper for peer review and caring for his sick mother, I'm assuming. Let's be real here. Neurosurgeons manage to find four and a half seconds to text...if that's what they really want to do. (Not actually during the surgery, I hope, but you get the idea.) Lawyers do, people going to school plus working do...if they care in the slightest. And sorry, yes. In general most guys WILL manage to make part of any one of a number of opportunities - lunchtime, break, before or after work, on the train home, instead of brain dead Netflixing on a night off, while the Hot Pockets are nuking, or whatever - to remind the girl they *really like* that they're still around, and a contender.
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Op you can read into it anyway you like and take whatever action you so desire. At this point you and everyone else is just "assuming". Well, and giving our actual experiences. I am still curious as to what was said in the text.
Soul Bear Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 If I like someone enough, you can be sure I'll do whatever it takes to let her know I'm there, and make the time to see her. Period. It's a shame our perception of what others act, or consider, as prioritys and options are so foggy when we are into someone. There's playing the game and there's being played. Don't get caught in the latter...
winny Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 So he actually did end up texting me today (about two weeks after he said he was busy)...so maybe he was legit? Dont think so much... if u like him go out with him.
Miss Spider Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 (edited) It's possible he was on a project and was too busy to be bothered. It's a new year and many people in finance or even law have year end wrap up tasks that aren't flexible. I personally had to work on budgeting and software conversions that put me out of commissions for a while. I think its important to remember that if it's early no one has necessarily earned the right to be a priority. I may like you, but I may not like you enough to necessarily break my neck to accommodate you during rare critical times. I agree. Not everyone makes dating a or relationships a priority in their life. I've met men like that and frankly it's off putting to me. I've told a guy II just started dating that I would be busy over the holidays and would get back in touch after. We just started dating and I told him beforehand.. My position in dating right now is not zeroing in on any one guy and making him my priority regardless of how much I like him. I like him a lot but I don't have a scarcity mentality so if someone I just started talking to can't wait and meets someone else while I take a break from dating and contend to more important things for a couple weeks, it wasn't meant to be. Not saying that's for sure what's happened in OP's case, just drawing from my experience Edited January 22, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
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