I am being lied to

[BeingLiedTo]

What now? Do you want to continue on with a bald faced liar or nah? That is your choice.

 

If your answer is yes, then find a way to be cool with a liar.

If your answer is no, then you know what you need to do.

 

Pro tip: liars don't deserve the chance to lie again in your face.

 

Of course not. I just feel like a truck hit me. It is not about these two lies; I am not thinking what else have I been lied to and WHY? Like I get how people "white" lie when they are dating (even though it is not cool) but this was going for a serious engagement route. Now trying to figure out how badly I've been played and why ... so I don't make the same mistakes again.

[kendahke]

 

Ask her what? "Why did you lie to me"? Wouldn't she lie about why she lied to me, if she is a liar? Is there a point?

 

Exactly....

[BeingLiedTo]

I also have to wonder what else she has lied about. Time for a serious come to Jesus talk with her and figure out what other things she is hiding or lying about. I don't know why she lied about her work unless she was a dancer or an escort. Same with college. I do not have a college degree but have done pretty well for myself. Not something I would lie about.

 

I agree with you about how silly those lies were. But that makes me think whether her "I love you" and other nice things were lies too. Like was I dating a psychopath?

[BeingLiedTo]

I don't care how old she is or how she feels about herself, she's a liar.

 

Some people may view lying about one's job or schooling as small potatoes, I see it as a big red flag ESPECIALLY given that you've been dating for a year!

 

If she feels comfortable and compelled enough to lie about those 'little' things, whose to say what she's capable of regarding bigger issues.

 

Where there is smoke there is fire. Always seems to be the case.

 

Tread very carefully.

 

She had told me she slept with 3 people only. Maybe that was a lie too. My mind is all scattered now. I don't know what was a lie and what wasn't.

[SwordofFlame]

Well, we don't live together or share finances. She comes from a well-off family so you can never tell she lives on a make-up artist salary from her dresses, bags, car, or an apartment, etc.

 

I didn't assume. I went to a top university in the country and it came up "oh cool, where did you go, what was your major" when we first met. She said she has a BA in Psychology. Many times she would say "Need to go back to school" out of nowhere, which was weird if you have a degree already, so I would ask "Didn't you finish school?" and she would confirm "No, I have my Bachelors; I wanna go back for my Masters."

 

Well a lot of people with psychology degrees do end up going to graduate school because a BA in Psychology doesn't help you much in the way of getting a good job.

[BeingLiedTo]

Well a lot of people with psychology degrees do end up going to graduate school because a BA in Psychology doesn't help you much in the way of getting a good job.

 

That maybe so but my gut feeling told me the only way one person hears that many "have to go back to school' remarks is if the person was a college drop out. And I was right.

[Tressugar]

Hahaha...that reminds me when my ex husband told me that he was a manager of a popular gas station and his boss was planning on giving him ownership of said gas station.

 

My sister and I had picked him up early from work and saw him taking directives from management and sweeping the floor before closing...lol.

 

My sister turned to me and told me he is NOT a manager maybe perhaps in his mind. He got busted! You think he would have came out with the truth? Nope he told a couple of more lies to cover the last one he got caught in.

[BeingLiedTo]

Curious to know if most people here think those were 'white lies' or 'big lies' ?