QuestioningMind Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 Hi All, I'll try to summarize this in a TLDR manner. 1) Connected with her on a dating app 2.5 weeks ago, exchanged messages on the app for a few days, then got her number after that. 2) Exchanged text messages almost daily for a week (we were both busy with holidays and her being out of town so that's why it took a week) and finally met up for a quick lunch during work. She was a little hesitant because she was feeling "antisocial", but she finally agreed. She said she didn't regret it..which I was glad to hear. 3) Continue to exchange text messages a few days after that and then I asked her if she would be free to grab dinner some time this week. Her response was "lol maybe or maybe next week". She's going out of town this weekend, so..I'm not sure if that is a factor for her response. 4) When we text, it's mainly about random stuff. Nothing 'deep' to feel connected, which I don't mind since I'd prefer to have an in-person conversation. Also, the texting that we do doesn't really bother me since it kind of gives me a 'false hope' of her interest being there. But at the same time, I feel like there's no point in texting if it's not going anywhere. If she's interested and lets it be known, then I'm fine with the texting. Now, her response seems like she's either hesitant or not interested. To me, I feel like I left the ball in her court to get back to me about meeting up. I've received some advice from a friend to wait a day or two before contacting her, then asking her thoughts on things rather than having her ghost me or perhaps even waiting for me to initiate again. But at what point will persistence become chasing and come off as needy?
NinjaX Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 From her actions, she seems to be keeping you at a distance. Women with high interest will want to see you, show up on time, and have a great attitude. Personally, texting should be primarily for setting up dates. It's good to send a few texts here and there to keep in touch, but using it as a primary way to connect is not a good idea. If you keep feeding her attention and validation through text anyways, sometimes the woman will not see the point of making the effort of seeing you in person. Looking at her actions, I would leave the ball in her court. You've already done your part as the man to initiate the follow up date. She is wishy washy about it, then tell her "let me know when you are free to meet up". Cut the texting and see if she makes the effort. If she replies, set a date. If not, then it's time to focus you attention on other women. Any more chasing from your end is counter-productive and could be seen as needy behaviour.
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