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Dating someone with a past of mental abuse


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New guy here. I have recently met a girl and we have hit it off pretty well I think. She has been separated from her husband for 4 years now, the final hearing is coming up soon. From what I can gather this guy was not a nice person. I have not asked for details, as I didn't think it's my place. I tell her she looks nice, is sexy etc. I am not just saying these things to say them. She is an amazing woman that I am ecstatic to have met. The problem is she is not used to being treated the way a woman should be treated. She has told me this, and she is overwhelmed by my compliments. She has asked for some room with the hearing coming up and I am doing that for her.

 

Besides being patient is there anything I can do or say to help with her fear? I know I'm not out to hurt her, etc. This is frustrating for me because I want her to know that I think she is pretty etc. I'm not afraid to do whatever I need to do. I think she is that special. I don't want to screw things up that's for sure. If anyone has gone thru this themselves on either side I'd be grateful for any insight. I want to help, but I know this is something she will have to work thru on her own. If I can make it easier for her I'm all for it.

 

Thanks!!

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You just met. Don't worry about this so soon. She hardly knows you.

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I've been in a similar situation and the compliments can be overwhelming. Aside from verbal things - i suggest showing her your care in other ways that are non-verbal and it may go over well. Like bring a flower (a flower or 2 - not 100 roses ;)) when you guys meet for a date or something like that. That goes a long way to making a girl feel special and doesn't feel overwhelming.

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