Yiannis Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Hello! I will be brief about my situation I broke up (me not her) with this girl a year ago. She got mad at me at some reason. 2 days after she regretted and tried to contact me. I was negative about us getting back together. I did not returned her messages, phone calls or even left angry when she showed up at my place. I was mad indeed and wanted some time to cool of. Took me about 6 moths to cool off but i felt that i shouldn't contact her again. I've always kept her in my mind and i was acting like a jerk just to to get at her back for acting like that the time i broke up with her. Now, i regret it. I was being immature about it. I MADE THE MISTAKE of sending her emails and desperate messages (a year after). She didn't return any emails. One day i text her 'i want to talk to you' (big mistake 2) and she said she was not interested and never to bother her again. So, one day i waited for her after work and i was very nice etc. Mistake 3: i told her i drew back to find my self and that i came here today cause i am interested for her health. I was very sincere. She was very distant and told me i should move on and it took her a long time to recover form our break up etc and told me not to worry about her (aka not to see her again). Anyway, i texted her afterwards and told her to be friends and got an answer "have a happy new year". I broke almost any rule of getting her back, i know. If it is of any help, a cousin of me is her best friend and told me she has had a really bad time of getting back at her feet and she really loved me but since i did not call her for a year she moved on (we know she is not dating anyone). WHAT TO DO GUYS and GALS?? I know i should be confident. What she saw on me at the first place was confidence and humor. I though about why i want this woman...She was very sincere, kind and would be a good mother for my children... I treated her badly, i know. But she was the reason for me trying to find my self. I cannot let go of such a great woman...
Brapting Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Gosh. I will be honest. It doesn't sound too great. By the sounds of it, she has been fairly clear that she wants nothing more to do with you. I completely empathize with your feelings for her, but your repeated attempts to contact her are at best putting her off and at worst bordering on stalking. You don't want a visit from the local policeman with a harassment order. I would first drop a massive hint to your cousin that you would do anything to get her back. Then I would move on. It will be hard, but try to drop all thoughts of her and start looking for someone new. There are billions of women out there who would love to spend time with you, so start focusing on meeting them and forget about your ex. I hope this helps.
thecrucible Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Hello! I will be brief about my situation I broke up (me not her) with this girl a year ago. She got mad at me at some reason. 2 days after she regretted and tried to contact me. I was negative about us getting back together. I did not returned her messages, phone calls or even left angry when she showed up at my place. I was mad indeed and wanted some time to cool of. Took me about 6 moths to cool off but i felt that i shouldn't contact her again. I've always kept her in my mind and i was acting like a jerk just to to get at her back for acting like that the time i broke up with her. Now, i regret it. I was being immature about it. I MADE THE MISTAKE of sending her emails and desperate messages (a year after). She didn't return any emails. One day i text her 'i want to talk to you' (big mistake 2) and she said she was not interested and never to bother her again. So, one day i waited for her after work and i was very nice etc. Mistake 3: i told her i drew back to find my self and that i came here today cause i am interested for her health. I was very sincere. She was very distant and told me i should move on and it took her a long time to recover form our break up etc and told me not to worry about her (aka not to see her again). Anyway, i texted her afterwards and told her to be friends and got an answer "have a happy new year". I broke almost any rule of getting her back, i know. If it is of any help, a cousin of me is her best friend and told me she has had a really bad time of getting back at her feet and she really loved me but since i did not call her for a year she moved on (we know she is not dating anyone). WHAT TO DO GUYS and GALS?? I know i should be confident. What she saw on me at the first place was confidence and humor. I though about why i want this woman...She was very sincere, kind and would be a good mother for my children... I treated her badly, i know. But she was the reason for me trying to find my self. I cannot let go of such a great woman... She has told you to move on so you should do just that. There may be a lady around the corner who strikes your curiosity. Honestly in the kindest possible of saying it, I know myself that if I tell a guy I am moving on with my life and he should too then I really mean it and don't want to communicate with him again. It's not said out of malice, it's just the right thing for both of us. She probably feels messed around from the situation where she was willing to give you another chance but you rejected her offer of a reunion. By keeping her distance, she is saving herself from further hurt. I apologise if this is too nosy, but what reason did you break up with her before? Why after all this time do you hope to rekindle things now?
smackie9 Posted January 3, 2016 Posted January 3, 2016 Move on, there will be someone better that will come along.
Author Yiannis Posted January 3, 2016 Author Posted January 3, 2016 (edited) I apologise if this is too nosy, but what reason did you break up with her before? Why after all this time do you hope to rekindle things now? She did a gynecologic test and her doctor scared her, telling her she might got an STD. She started blaming me in a very mean and intense way. She thought i was having sex with other women. I was shocked to see my other half blaming me for sth that was not true. On the day of the biopsy results, she came at my place, told me never to contact her again and that i know why. I thought the results was that i gave her an STD. 3 days after, she send me messages, called me 100 times/day, even came a couple of times at my place, but wouldn't accept her. I was in shock, as you can see. Then i was devastated... I thought i did her sth bad and i said i should draw back to protect her. Months later i found out that her problem was sth genetic, not an STD. At the time i was absent, i tried to make my self better, but i missed her a lot. That kept going until i saw her a couple of weeks ago... I should've called her to meet up for a coffee instead of sending her obsessive messages, i know. Anyway, i believe the right thing to do is not try to contact her again. If she is interested she will let me know. Edited January 3, 2016 by Yiannis
Author Yiannis Posted January 10, 2017 Author Posted January 10, 2017 Hello. Me and my ex gf broke up 2 years ago. I was the one making the break up. A year later, i came back, sending emails, flowers, sms's, you name it. I know. I made every single mistake in the book. Of course i got no answer. Then i showed up in front of her without expecting it. She literally ditched me off, saying not to contact again. So i did. A few days later i found out she was already dating someone else. So, i accepted the fact that she moved on and decided to focus on myself and move on too. A few weeks ago, i get an sms telling "hey! how are you? Wanna catch up for a drink"? I didn't know who it was so i asked and it was her. I asked her what she wanted but got an answer of the type "no particular reason, just to see u etc". Told her we had nothing to talk about after her ****ty behavior, but she insisted. I was curious so we met. Of course i was expecting some explanation for their behavior but she was avoiding talking about the past, told me it took her 1 year to recover bla bla and doesn't want to talk about it. Why would anyone wants to meet with someone they treated like **** and pretend like nothing happened? So i got pissed of and told her that after her behavior, i erased her from my life both as a person and as a woman and asked her why she contacted me. She said "i owned it to you". I do not understand what she meant. I mean, you meet someone cause u owned it to? I am veeeery confused...
Simple Logic Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 Hello. Me and my ex gf broke up 2 years ago. I was the one making the break up. A year later, i came back, sending emails, flowers, sms's, you name it. I know. I made every single mistake in the book. Of course i got no answer. Then i showed up in front of her without expecting it. She literally ditched me off, saying not to contact again. So i did. A few days later i found out she was already dating someone else. So, i accepted the fact that she moved on and decided to focus on myself and move on too. A few weeks ago, i get an sms telling "hey! how are you? Wanna catch up for a drink"? I didn't know who it was so i asked and it was her. I asked her what she wanted but got an answer of the type "no particular reason, just to see u etc". Told her we had nothing to talk about after her ****ty behavior, but she insisted. I was curious so we met. Of course i was expecting some explanation for their behavior but she was avoiding talking about the past, told me it took her 1 year to recover bla bla and doesn't want to talk about it. Why would anyone wants to meet with someone they treated like **** and pretend like nothing happened? So i got pissed of and told her that after her behavior, i erased her from my life both as a person and as a woman and asked her why she contacted me. She said "i owned it to you". I do not understand what she meant. I mean, you meet someone cause u owned it to? I am veeeery confused... She is probably exiting a relationship. After your effort to reconnect and seeing you in person, she decided to re-evalute. Then you acted like a idiot after agreeing to a meet and then attacking her. She wont be back.
Author Yiannis Posted January 11, 2017 Author Posted January 11, 2017 She is probably exiting a relationship. After your effort to reconnect and seeing you in person, she decided to re-evalute. Then you acted like a idiot after agreeing to a meet and then attacking her. She wont be back. She decided to re evaluate after 6 months?
fromheart Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 Hello. Me and my ex gf broke up 2 years ago. I was the one making the break up. A year later, i came back, sending emails, flowers, sms's, you name it. I know. I made every single mistake in the book. Of course i got no answer. Then i showed up in front of her without expecting it. She literally ditched me off, saying not to contact again. So i did. A few days later i found out she was already dating someone else. So, i accepted the fact that she moved on and decided to focus on myself and move on too. A few weeks ago, i get an sms telling "hey! how are you? Wanna catch up for a drink"? I didn't know who it was so i asked and it was her. I asked her what she wanted but got an answer of the type "no particular reason, just to see u etc". Told her we had nothing to talk about after her ****ty behavior, but she insisted. I was curious so we met. Of course i was expecting some explanation for their behavior but she was avoiding talking about the past, told me it took her 1 year to recover bla bla and doesn't want to talk about it. Why would anyone wants to meet with someone they treated like **** and pretend like nothing happened? So i got pissed of and told her that after her behavior, i erased her from my life both as a person and as a woman and asked her why she contacted me. She said "i owned it to you". I do not understand what she meant. I mean, you meet someone cause u owned it to? I am veeeery confused... You have two options, 'hook up and have fun,' as Corey Wayne would say, or as you have done tell her there's no excuse for her shi#ty behavior and walk off. Bear in mind, unless she's done some serious work on herself the shi#ty behavior will happen again. Either way, your NC has worked and got her looking your way in whatever context, so well done for getting through it and sticking to your guns.
ElizabethIII Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 You have two options, 'hook up and have fun,' as Corey Wayne would say, or as you have done tell her there's no excuse for her shi#ty behavior and walk off. Bear in mind, unless she's done some serious work on herself the shi#ty behavior will happen again. Either way, your NC has worked and got her looking your way in whatever context, so well done for getting through it and sticking to your guns. Her bad behavior? Has everyone missed the fact that HE dumped HER?! She moved on and then he got back in contact with her and started emailing her again? She told him to go away? Good for her I say. The advice on here is when someone who dumped you comes back, either ignore or tell them to go away. This guys ex gf did exactly that but her behavior is shytty? She did very well.
Simple Logic Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 (edited) She decided to re evaluate after 6 months? You say you re-evaluted a year after you broke up. why should she be in a hurry when you come begging her back? Edited January 11, 2017 by Simple Logic
Author Yiannis Posted January 11, 2017 Author Posted January 11, 2017 (edited) Her bad behavior? Has everyone missed the fact that HE dumped HER?! She moved on and then he got back in contact with her and started emailing her again? She told him to go away? Good for her I say. The advice on here is when someone who dumped you comes back, either ignore or tell them to go away. This guys ex gf did exactly that but her behavior is shytty? She did very well. Hold your horses Elizabeth. I came back to apologize. Instead of accepting my apology and told me to be friends in spite of what happened (i would have accepted that) she acted like a 15 year old kid trying to take revenge. Do keep in mind that i told her the past year i had no relationships but i was trying to find my self. Of course she had no obligation to wait for me. What i know is that when u choose to close acquaintances, you move on and don't look back. What i am wondering about now is that maybe i should have given a second chance. Edited January 11, 2017 by Yiannis
Author Yiannis Posted January 11, 2017 Author Posted January 11, 2017 Hang in there! Of course i will!
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