BevHillz28 Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 I was seeing this guy for over 3 months. He wasn't calling me his girlfriend but he said he wasn't seeing anyone else either. He was always talking to another girl (who lives halfway across the country). When I asked him about it and gave him the opportunity to be honest with me, he gave me a shady answer and said he has many female friends he talks to when he goes out on the weekends and that if he didn't like me he wouldn't be talking and hanging out with me. I told him I didn't want to push him into something he doesn't want to continue but he seemed to not want to let go (even though my gut was telling me he wanted to keep his options open). I left it at that and gave him some more time. The last straw was when I saw him texting this girl while on a date with me. I ended it with him because he didn't seem to care about how uncomfortable this made me and he admitted it was unfair for him to drag it out with me when he couldn't take to the next level with me and that he was really struggling. He said that he didn't feel like he led me on because he wouldn't have talked to me and went out with me if he didn't have feelings for me. I wished him luck with whatever it was he was looking for. Did I push him away by coming off as insecure about that situation or was I right to end it? I guess I am confused about him saying he likes me but is struggling to get to the next level with me and maybe I should have been patient or something?
olivetree Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 You did the right thing. Three months is plenty of time for him to want to make you his girl. He liked you but he just wasn't that into you.
fireflywy Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 You two were moving at much different paces. This early in a relationship if you REALLY think he won't ever match it, then what you did was okay. No one says you have to waste time with people. Your criteria are your criteria and if you made a decision to occam razor this dating experience then don't feel bad.
Author BevHillz28 Posted January 10, 2017 Author Posted January 10, 2017 Additional note: he is late 20s and has never really had a girlfriend
Simple Logic Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 Additional note: he is late 20s and has never really had a girlfriend You moved on just like the other women he has dated for the same reason.
lily999 Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 You did the right thing. I wouldn't want to do anything with a guy who will text other girls during a date with me 1
BrutalHonesty1980 Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 Seems as though you two were on different pages since day 1. You talked to him about it, didn't like his answer ; you moved on. You did what you felt was right for you. Go YOU! BTW: texting while on a date is very disrespectful!
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