Brittybritt92 Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 My ex and I broke up about 3 years ago. We were together for 2.5 years. He was around my family every weekend with me, and went through a lot of ups and downs, definitely my first love and I thought we would often talk about getting married someday and all that lovely stuff-- but he had a cheating problem and I was too naive at the time to not overlook it. I caught him texting girls three times in our relationship (one is more than enough, I realize now) but at the time I would swallow the hurt. The third time he cheated he just totally broke my heart. He stopped talking to me and sent me a BREAKUP EMAIL and then proceeded to block me on all social media as well as family and mutual friends. Now that I look back on it I can see how totally immature it was, but at the time it just left me in shock. He jumped into a relationship about a week later with the girl he cheated on me with. Jump to about 6 months ago and my sister (who is only a year younger than me) tells me that my ex reached out to her to see how she was doing. I was absolutely furious and demanded to see the conversation. She finally agreed to show me and it was so weird. She was telling him that my family missed him and FORGAVE him? I was so pissed off but she assured me it was all in good intention. He reached out to me a month later (my sister's doing) and we went out for lunch to talk. It was a really nice time actually and I thought it was decent to get some closure, we were both in different places and I had no ill feelings towards him. Then about a month later I notice that my sister is still texting him. I didn't think much of it until she sat me down and told me he asked her out for a drink and when she said she'd bring both me and our other sister, he said he just wanted to go with her. I immediately ran downstairs, picked up the phone and chewed him out. Everything I had ever wanted to say to him, I finally did-- it felt AMAZING! I was shaking from all the adrenaline after the call.. and I told him to stop talking to my family. He tried to send me a nasty facebook message asking me "why I wouldnt have the balls to answer his question" which I didn't understand because I had blocked his number. I responded with a youtube video of someone saying "not today satan" immature? absolutely. But all I can do is laugh off his bull**** at this point. He was only able to message me because he unblocked ME, and I saw that my sister is his friend on facebook. This is just so beyond upsetting. I'm very much past my ex...but is my sister in the wrong here? I feel like she should be on my side and tell him to **** off! Thoughts?
ExpatInItaly Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 Your sister should not be speaking to him at all. He's an arse, but I very much side-eye your sister for continuing to engage with him. It seems she probably likes the attention.
SerPundnes Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 Explain to your sister how you feel about this. For god sake, shes your sister, she'll understand! She'll prob stop talking to him the SECOND you tell her how you feel.
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