sweetjess1951 Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 Before I get into the most recent interaction, I'll give the small background on me and this guy. When I moved to my current city, I chatted with this guy (we will call him Jason) on match. We exchanged a few messages but never met up for whatever reason. Maybe a year later, my friend (who happens to be pretty good friends with him) invited him out to a bar a group of us were at. I think I said hello, but that was the extent of our interaction. Back in August, the same friend who knows Jason, tried to set me up with one of her guy friends. She invited the new guy to meet us out one night, and Jason happened to come with him. We all had a good time, but I got pretty drunk (unintentionally - I had hardly eaten) and even though no one said I did anything stupid, the fact that I was pretty drunk and didn't remember anything was embarrassing. I had expressed to some friends that I was into him and they suggested I reach out to him and ask him to hang out again. I was hesitant, but did. I wasn't exactly straight forward, but told him that Saturday was fun and I'd be down to hang out again if he was interested. His response was "yea for sure. We will have to do it again soon!". I didn't respond. I didn't see him again until the end of November when I went to my friends place for friendsgiving. I came over at the tail-end when most people were leaving. My friend, me, one of our guy friends and Jason decided to go to a bar to grab a drink and shoot basketball and play pool. Jason and I had a fun/flirty competition going, but nothing happened. I guess I took his message response to mean he wasn't interested. This past Friday, my friend and I met Jason and his friend at the same bar for some drinks and basketball/pool. The dynamic was the same - fun/flirty competition. We moved to the pool table and him and I were on the same team. Then I challenged him to a game between just us. One game turned into multiple and as he got a few more beers in him, he became more flirty, even tapping me on my butt a couple times. He also told me that he decided to come on the mountain trip my friend and I invited him on. We all ended up staying at my friends house since we had a snowstorm come through. I was staying in the only available bedroom so I told him (jokingly but not) that if he was a good cuddler, he could sleep with me, but if he snores, he wasn't allowed. My friend chimed in that he could sleep with her as well (they are good friends. She's known him for a while). It got to be really late and my friend decided to go to bed. So Jason and I stayed up on the couch and talked. We talked about past relationships, our families, his baseball career, his view on marriage, that he wants kids, how social media ruins relationships, and even told me he used to be engaged (my friend didn't even know this). I was surprised how open he was (granted, he was a little drunk) because he seems like such a shy, closed-off person. I decided it was time to go to bed, but before I went upstairs, I got him some water and a blanket. As I walked away, he goes "you're so nice". The next morning, I got up and went downstairs to watch tv, with him on the couch. He goes "I almost got up and got in bed with you, but I didn't want to freak you out". I didn't know how to respond, so I kind of just looked at him, and then he quickly goes "or Jenna. I was trying to think who would freak out less". I didn't know how to take it. Did he say the 2nd part because of my lack of response, or because he didn't want me to think he wanted to get in bed with me?! We talked some more - he asked me questions about where I'm from, etc. Then he went home. Later that night, I texted him asking what he was up to. He said he was watching football with a friend and I told him where we were if they decided to venture that way. He never responded. But he has been liking my instagram posts. My friends say it sounds like he's into me, but not responding to my text makes me think not. He's not a very forward guy, and I would assume that he may be a little gun shy, since he was previously engaged and it didn't work out. But I'm confused. My gut tells me to leave it alone.
preraph Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 To me it sounds like he doesn't know if you are someone he might be interested in but is watching you on Instagram to see what you're like just in case since he knows you are interested. I'd leave the next move up to him. 1
Author sweetjess1951 Posted January 10, 2017 Author Posted January 10, 2017 To me it sounds like he doesn't know if you are someone he might be interested in but is watching you on Instagram to see what you're like just in case since he knows you are interested. I'd leave the next move up to him. I agree that he may not know if I'm someone he wants to date, or if he really wants to date at all. He's 36. He told me he definitely wants kids but when I asked him if he wants to get married, he said "I don't even know", but mostly because of how marriages are these days, with so many people getting married. But as far as Instagram - I find it annoying that so much emphasis is placed on social media, and how so many people use it as a method to play games. He could absolutely not be using it to play games, but IMP, if someone has expressed a romantic interest in you, you probably shouldn't like a bunch of their pictures if you aren't interested, ya know?
VeveCakes Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 But as far as Instagram - I find it annoying that so much emphasis is placed on social media, and how so many people use it as a method to play games. He could absolutely not be using it to play games, but IMP, if someone has expressed a romantic interest in you, you probably shouldn't like a bunch of their pictures if you aren't interested, ya know? Especially since he made the comment about social media ruining relationships. Did you get any more info on that? It could be telling...
Author sweetjess1951 Posted January 12, 2017 Author Posted January 12, 2017 Especially since he made the comment about social media ruining relationships. Did you get any more info on that? It could be telling... He elaborated on it a bit. He's 36 and I think he's really old school. He was saying that social media ruins relationships because people put too much emphasis on it. People post pictures to make their lives look a certain way, when it really isn't that way at all. Girls post pictures to get attention. Too many couples put their relationship on display. With him saying that, it is hard to think that him "liking" my pictures is him playing games. I've, unfortunately, ran into a lot of guys that use social media as a way to play games. Plus, he "likes" pictures of me with kids. I feel like a lot of guys don't like those type of pictures. They did to like pictures of girls half naked, which is not something I posted. I found out yesterday he is definitely coming on our mountain weekend trip, so that's exciting.
VeveCakes Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 It is interesting about him thinking that about social media. Social media doesn't ruin relationships, peoples actions and reactions would be what actually ruins it. When is the trip?
Author sweetjess1951 Posted January 13, 2017 Author Posted January 13, 2017 It is interesting about him thinking that about social media. Social media doesn't ruin relationships, peoples actions and reactions would be what actually ruins it. When is the trip? I agree. I think he's just seen to many negative things when it comes to couples and relationships, and how easy it is to cheat. He seems to be a little guarded due to a failed engagement. The trip is the weekend of February 10.
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