Author lillian39530 Posted January 18, 2017 Author Posted January 18, 2017 Hey guys, just a quick update as promised - I finally managed to talk to him, we exchanged a few texts and I decided to see what was really going on by asking him out one final time. He replied the day after that he was free to talk and that we could see each other the next day. I said that I was free too, but asked him if this really was necessary to do this in person, that if he wanted to end things I was fine, as long as he made things clear for me, as I was tired of waiting for his texts (I knew where this was going and I didn't want to hurt even more by seeing him). He suggested to call me - but I said : "do you really have something specific to say?" and so the discussion was only by texts, as I thought it was the best option for me. He replied by a really really sweet message saying he just couldn't see a future with us and did not want to lose my time, as this had nothing to do with me, etc. He apologized for his silence, and we wrote each other back-and-forth a few texts, saying how I appreciated his honesty/ how we had spent a nice time together/ how we wish eachother a long and happy life. After that I cried for 12 hours, but now I'm doing better. I got the closure I needed and I can move on. I don't hold grudge against him - and it's sort of makes things even worst when the guy is being so kind even when he's leaving you. This whole story made me realized how disproportionate my reaction to this was, and I decided to finally acknowledge my anxiety problem before jumping into another relationship, and work on myself A LOT. Thanks guys for all your support xx 3
Miss Spider Posted January 18, 2017 Posted January 18, 2017 Hey guys, just a quick update as promised - I finally managed to talk to him, we exchanged a few texts and I decided to see what was really going on by asking him out one final time. He replied the day after that he was free to talk and that we could see each other the next day. I said that I was free too, but asked him if this really was necessary to do this in person, that if he wanted to end things I was fine, as long as he made things clear for me, as I was tired of waiting for his texts (I knew where this was going and I didn't want to hurt even more by seeing him). He suggested to call me - but I said : "do you really have something specific to say?" and so the discussion was only by texts, as I thought it was the best option for me. He replied by a really really sweet message saying he just couldn't see a future with us and did not want to lose my time, as this had nothing to do with me, etc. He apologized for his silence, and we wrote each other back-and-forth a few texts, saying how I appreciated his honesty/ how we had spent a nice time together/ how we wish eachother a long and happy life. After that I cried for 12 hours, but now I'm doing better. I got the closure I needed and I can move on. I don't hold grudge against him - and it's sort of makes things even worst when the guy is being so kind even when he's leaving you. This whole story made me realized how disproportionate my reaction to this was, and I decided to finally acknowledge my anxiety problem before jumping into another relationship, and work on myself A LOT. Thanks guys for all your support xx That is actually one of the cleanest breaks I've read of on here. It always sucks, and it wasn't cool he went mia, but at least he finally had the courage and respect for you be honest. You don't know how many times they keep women on the side lines "just in case", go in and out of her life, and she winds up wasting months and years of her time and love on someone who barely likes her. I know you're hurting right now and I'm sorry. It hurts our pride as much as hearts sometimes in thes early dating phase. Just keep reminding yourself no one is right for everyone and there is someone out there who wants a future with you. Someone who is just as crazy about you as you are them. 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 Sigh...I am so sorry... BUT I think you are taking such a good attitude with this. It will happen for you! Onward and upward! 1
winny Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 *Hugs* You'll be okay. And I don't like him or believe his reasons... but happy you can now move on.
Miss Spider Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 What do you think happened winny? I haven't read entire thread:( yeah I know sometimes they say it's just the wrong timing..who knows
winny Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 What do you think happened winny? I haven't read entire thread:( yeah I know sometimes they say it's just the wrong timing..who knows Most probably he met someone else over the holidays, someone who he can get sex from without commitment. A new girl or someone from past. Things were going well between the two and suddenly he goes silent and only after she reached out he says he cant see it working long term! That weekend trip with his Mom -- i doubt it was his Mom.
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