Ex called said she broke up with "Hell Boy" now is back with him?

[daveycool75]

So my ex contacts me out of the blue right before New Years. I have really been working on myself and my relationship issues. Mainly being too needy. She was going through her crazy month and in the middle of it said "Broke up with Hell Boy". I didn't ask her about it at all but I asked her when she could get together. (Wish I had now) Turns out she was free on New Years. We kissed a couple times nothing crazy but had a great time.

 

We talked a couple times during the following week. I asked her out again and she gave me a wishy washy answer. Then nothing.

 

Well her office is 2 miles from me on a major road that I take all the time. I drove by today and saw that she was driving his car. I know the car cause she had mentioned it when they first started hanging out as "friends". I went no contact as soon as I knew they were dating.

 

So basically she went in one week to calling this guy "Hell Boy" to obviously reconciling. She is the one that got away and it sucks I had one chance to show her the work I have been doing on myself. She also makes guys insecure she tests all the time, is beautiful and outgoing......and she is a big trash talker so she is a challenge.

 

What do you think is going on here? My instinct is to completely walk away and not say anything. Any insight on her flip flop on him and what my best path is? Obviously he did something very right or I did something very wrong.

[preraph]

She's not focused on you. She's using you in between Hell Boy just to amuse herself and maybe get some ego gratification. She isn't treating you like anyone she respects. So don't let her treat you like that. Give yourself to someone focused on you.

[carhill]

What do you think is going on here? My instinct is to completely walk away and not say anything. Any insight on her flip flop on him and what my best path is? Obviously he did something very right or I did something very wrong.

 

If 20's, unsurprising. It takes maturity to handle the kind of sexual power she has. Not everyone is cracked up for it. Takes time and experience. She's enjoying the rush. Guys are like the bears on her bed. Pick one up, give it a hug, put it down and grab another one. You're davey-bear.

[daveycool75]

haha Davey Bear for sure....... I have a weakness for her and she used it. Super glad I happened to see her driving his car. Now I can walk away without making an ass of myself. I think taking that road today was fate.

[daveycool75]

Forgot to add.......She is 33..... but as she will tell you has broken up ..... a lot. A couple times with this sucker.

[mystificatecg]

Shouldn't be datin' older chicks anyways. She's no longer a hot commodity.

[VeveCakes]

Shouldn't be datin' older chicks anyways. She's no longer a hot commodity.

 

excuseeee me???

 

Anyways OP, she used you to fill the void on New Years. Not a very nice person. A life of torment awaits with her. I would go complete NC so you can move on.

[CommittedToThis]

She also makes guys insecure she tests all the time

 

Hey man, sorry you're going thru this but glad you seem to have dodged a bullet with this woman.

 

I seem to be a natural magnet for women who "test", I have yet to be with one who hasn't tested me in some way, shape or form. In the past apparently I've passed the tests because two ended up in LTR's (7 and 10 years) that ultimately failed.

 

I've been single the past 17+ months and I recently dated a woman for 3 weeks, then she tested me by telling me her contractor was hitting on her. I said, "I'm sorry he made you feel that way" then dumped her the next day.

 

My point is at this stage, there are no more tests. Someone attempting to provoke insecurity as a way of testing me is not someone I am interested in paying attention to at all.

 

I think these kind of tests reveal a lot about the emotional maturity of the one administering the quiz.

[SerPundnes]

Never be an exes backup plan.

She made her bed, now let her sleep in it too.