Wondering if anyone has some good ways of taking your mind off a breakup?

[Filthyfrank93]

Hi. Well I posted a few months back regarding a breakup. Turns out it was a done deal and the girl really has no plans on wanting to get back with me. I finally told her to stop talking to me (have done this in the past but been too weak).

 

Throughout this time (roughly 3 months) I've been anything but happy, and would like a few examples of things you guys may have done throughout your breakups to take your mind off of it? My doctor has prescribed me some anti-depressants, but I would really rather not use them unless I feel like I really have to, also I have exams coming up in my final year at university and feel it may result in me flopping everything. At the same time if nothing is done about this, my lack of motivation will result in me flopping them all the same! Quite a pickle, eh?

 

Examples I am personally looking for are things that can take my mind of the relationship, and perhaps even things I can incorporate into my studying? At the same time I do realise studying isn't the best pick me up in the world, so any suggestions are appreciated

 

Now I have ruled off dating/talking to other girls at the moment, as I want to come to terms with the relationship I have been in first and be happy in myself. That being said mention anything that comes to mind, as perhaps this can help anyone else who may be in a similar situation to me

 

Thanks in advance for the help guys, God Bless. x

[Purepony]

Get a new hobby

 

Staying home sucks because it brings back memories

Follow a new show

Watch movies

Go out

Go to a museum

Go out with friends

Go out with family

Go wash you r car

Take a class

Go eat good food

There many many things you could do to stay busy

[marky00]

Computer Games saved me.

[LargoLagg]

Long distance running. I don't know if you run already, but if you don't, start. It does something to your brain, releases the chemicals that make you feel good and it makes you secrete less of the breakup chemicals that are making you obsess, mope and generally feel bad.

 

Right now, your attention is "captured" on this girl. The key to getting over a breakup is twofold: one, you have to believe the loss and then grieve it (you can't grieve if you have hope) and two: you have to retrain your brain to let other things capture its attention. This isn't easy, because you've been basically training your brain to think about her, whether you know it or not. Now you have to find a way to shift your focus, and believe it or not, running will do that for you.

[Nadine123]

I agree with running. It helped me alot

[Cornelius_Smiff]

I am sorry for what you're going through this I am really am. I know exactly how it feels as I am currently sat smack bang in the middle of the grief train.

 

My advice would be, embrace the pain. I know that sounds a tad insane but hear me out.

 

The one universal truth I have learnt from this and prior breakups is that the pain is inevitable and trying to run from it will only delay your recovery. By facing the pain, we can make friends with it and eventually we can own it. Think about it like taming a wild animal.

 

Embrace it but be gentle with yourself. Instead of letting it consume you, reach out and shake it's hand. Let the tears flow if needed and let the sadness arrive and most importantly, do not punish yourself for feeling these emotions it is completely normal. I found by embracing it I was able to channel it into something else. I started writing quotes and poetry, which was very helpful.

 

The biggest thing is to understand and accept, this is normal but you will get over this. You got this! Some days you will convince yourself you cannot go on without this person (I still have those days) but it gets easier. I am currently on Week 6 of my breakup from a cheating partner of 5 years and from where I was 4 weeks ago, it is a massive change.

 

Do all the things that make you happy but DO NOT try and block out the pain.