rainrhonda Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 I have been texting with a guy I met online just about a week ago. We seem to like each other plenty so far, but I am always the one who texts first. His responses are enthusiastic and leads to good conversation... Considering it's texting anyway. Yesterday I waited all before texting him last night... And I have heard nothing today/tonight so far. I have also hinted at meeting or a date but he hasn't asked me out. However he did spend this weekend working overnight shifts...and I know that wasn't a lie because he sent me pics at work while he was there. Should I stop and give time? How many days before I should write him off? Sorry but, I want to know I'm thought about and I don't want to be the only one reaching out.
BDJ_1 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 I don't think it matters who texts first even if it is unbalanced as long as it is not the same person initiating all of the time. In those instances I would guess either one party is too needy or one party is not interested. 1
Author rainrhonda Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 I don't think it matters who texts first even if it is unbalanced as long as it is not the same person initiating all of the time. In those instances I would guess either one party is too needy or one party is not interested. It is always me. I don't mind texting first, but I don't want it that way 100% of the time. So today I have avoided it completey, figure I should give him a chance to be first. But if 2-3 days go by, should I write him off or initiate again?
avf Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 If there is attraction he will text you ...people equate it to being needy but you can always initiate it and pull back later... 1
SunnySide0418 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 It is always me. I don't mind texting first, but I don't want it that way 100% of the time. So today I have avoided it completey, figure I should give him a chance to be first. But if 2-3 days go by, should I write him off or initiate again? Definitely write him off! 1
BDJ_1 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 It is always me. I don't mind texting first, but I don't want it that way 100% of the time. So today I have avoided it completey, figure I should give him a chance to be first. But if 2-3 days go by, should I write him off or initiate again? If he is not motivated enough to contact you in an appropriate period of time, then you should consider your willingness to date someone with that level of interest in you. 2
travelbug1996 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 I would throw him back. Please stop texting him. 1
Author rainrhonda Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 I would throw him back. Please stop texting him. Already have. Last night I kept it very short. And no texting all day today. And before that, it wasn't an all day thing. It was only here and there. And he is always happy to hear from me. But still, I feel I won't know his true level of interest if I am always the one starting conversations. 2
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 I can tell what his level of interest is.....0. He hasn't ask you out yet, and he hasn't lifted a finger to contact you. There is your answer to your question. Please stop wasting your time on this weenie. 2
winny Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 How do you know those pics were clicked that time itself? Those could be pics from past... And I agree to others, his interest is super low... don't initiate anymore texting.
Gaeta Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Online is a place to make contact to MEET. Give your phone number only when a date has been set up on the dating app. There is no reason for you to give your number to someone if he has not invited you out yet. This way you will avoid texting forever to men that are only looking for texting-buddies.
travelbug1996 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Already have. Last night I kept it very short. And no texting all day today. And before that, it wasn't an all day thing. It was only here and there. And he is always happy to hear from me. But still, I feel I won't know his true level of interest if I am always the one starting conversations. Atta girl!!!!
Author rainrhonda Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 Well today he has texted and started conversation. Of course that makes me glad So we'll see. Thanks everyone 1
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