oaknshoke Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 Looking for some advice, here's my situation: I've been seeing this woman for a little over a month now, and she's very career-oriented and busy so we've only had time for three dates. We're both in our mid 20's, and I believe we're both dating around. After the first date, she made it clear that she was interested, but over time her responses in texting have gotten much much less frequent, so much to the point that its difficult to have a conversation. So I'm left to believe that she's losing(or has lost) interest, but in person she's acted the same. I intentionally act a bit detached when I'm first getting to know a girl because I don't want to come off as overeager, but in this case, I'm afraid that she may have taken that as disinterest. I'm open to any advice on my situation, but what I'm wondering at the moment is: should I express my interest in dating her seriously, or should I just let the situation lie?
datingacheater29 Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 As long as you don't notice a change in behavior in person, just go with the flow! Don't get hung up on the outcome with this girl though, you're still just at date 3. Focus on having a good time and sharing more experiences together. Make sure you're having fun and growing as a person. It may lead to something serious, it may not. What's right will happen. I've personally learned to let relationships grow naturally. Forcing it/projecting my fantasy outcomes quickly makes me realize I'm moving too fast, even for myself.
smackie9 Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 (edited) Base interest on their ability to make themselves available to see you....she fails. 3 dates in one month says not really interested. I don't buy "they are really busy". If they are really into you, the make effort to see you. Go by their actions not their words. She's probably seeing others, regardless of what she told you. When it comes to dating, make your expectations a priority. If they barley see you, text very little, etc, don't sit there and wonder what you can do to get them to show more interest....that is so beta WEAK. You ditch them and find someone that DOES make EFFORT to see you, that wants to be with you, and shows they have a real interest in you! Screw her, find someone else that deserves YOUR time. Edited January 8, 2017 by smackie9
datingacheater29 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Base interest on their ability to make themselves available to see you....she fails. 3 dates in one month says not really interested. I don't buy "they are really busy". If they are really into you, the make effort to see you. Go by their actions not their words. She's probably seeing others, regardless of what she told you. When it comes to dating, make your expectations a priority. If they barley see you, text very little, etc, don't sit there and wonder what you can do to get them to show more interest....that is so beta WEAK. You ditch them and find someone that DOES make EFFORT to see you, that wants to be with you, and shows they have a real interest in you! Screw her, find someone else that deserves YOUR time. At the same time I barely text the girls I date. I think they are great but when I'm at work I don't text. When I'm at the gym I don't text. When I'm with friends I don't text. That leaves me less than desirable time to get back to people. So I wouldn't assume the worst here. Yes, 70% of people in our generation are quick texters. But some aren't trying to come off as disinterested, and rather are preoccupied with life itself. That doesn't mean she doesn't want you to be a a part of her life. BUT if you have a need of wanting someone who texts you regularly, respect your need and find someone who will fulfill it.
Erik30 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 I don't think 3 dates in the last month is that bad. That's like one date a week, and most people weren't really available because of the holidays after all. As long as the dates are going well I wouldn't worry too much about it. Usually when I've already met the girl, I mostly use texting just to set up dates. However, if now she's suddenly "too busy" to hang out, or gives you some other lame excuse... she probably lost interest.
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