scotthall Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 We hooked up last year then went like a month without talking. Started talking a bit. She basically called me out saying "you just want to hook up don't you?" I replied "well i dont know. It would be nice to get to know you" We have been chatting and we seem to have similar interests but it's hard to get her to go on a date I mean she said she would like to but the timing is awful with work and school (2 jobs, 1 day , 1 night and shcool) Anyway we are suppose to go out this week sometime, and i am basically avoiding asking her what day will work Last time i talked to her was Friday and she said dinner, and a book store trip sounded great She even put in a blowing kiss icon at the end of the text I guess I'm just afraid I'll text her to set the day and i'm afraid she won't reply Should I not even bother?
Simple Logic Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 If you are afraid she wont answer a text, how did you ever get the courage to get in her pants? 1
preraph Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 Yes, contact her. And I advise you make it very clear about setting the tone. If you think you really might want to get to know her and it's not just sex, then say something like, "Okay. Can I pick you up at 7 for our date either Friday or Saturday, your choice?" Work the word "date" in there and give her two day choices. If she still makes an excuse, give up and move on. If it really is a bad schedule, she knows how to reach you. But ask her like that so it's clear it's not a hookup, and give her this chance to accept. Good luck.
datingacheater29 Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 It has always worked best for me to toss the time and place her way, and let her do what she will with the ball in her court. Take the reins instead of having a back and forth about specifics. She'll probably appreciate it and it's easier on your end. If you get rejected then keep going on to someone who won't. You got straight to the point and that's respectable.
ChatroomHero Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 Call her up with no notice one night and say let's meet up in an hour. If she doesn't answer or can't, no prob, it was short notice, no real rejection for you. But she might say yes, win-win.
smackie9 Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 IMO it's a waste of time....she has 2 jobs and school...she doesn't have time. What makes you think you could ever get a relationship out of this?? Your expectations should take priority, not the girl,......get it?
umirano Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 The text reads like she's keen. Just ask, what's the risk?
spiderowl Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 Call her up with no notice one night and say let's meet up in an hour. If she doesn't answer or can't, no prob, it was short notice, no real rejection for you. But she might say yes, win-win. This is not a good idea. If someone did this to me, I'd have to say no. I'd want time to prepare, make sure I had my favourite clothes washed and so on. Ringing at short notice like this is a sure way to get a rejection.
spiderowl Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 Can't you just ask her when she is free? If she is that busy, she will need to find a date to work round her commitments. If you set a date, she might not be able to manage that one and then you will both be frustrated. You could say 'how about this weekend some time' and see what the response is. Narrow it down when she has agreed to pin it down to weekend or during the week. She was obviously interested in you or she would not have been in touch again. She thought you were only interested in sex. If you do want to start a relationship with her, you need to be interested and determined. Perhaps then, she will be sure you are genuinely keen.
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