Nofairydust Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 Hi guys, thanks for your feedback on my last thread. Friday night I decided to go out because, hey, I am not going to mope about that young stud who faded on me, right? Anyway, I met some friends at a bar who also had other friends there. There was a cute guy whom I recognized but hadn't seen in several years. Knew he had been interested in me before, but when I saw him last night, there was a girl next to him so I kept my distance of course. But, as the night progressed, I could feel his eyes on me, and eventually he joined a conversation between me and one of my friends (without the girl). He didn't stay with me the whole night but would come back many times. At one point, it was just me and him talking. He called me out on not remembering that we had gone on a date once, but in a nice teasing way. Ok, now, I really don't remember that we had gone on a one-on-one date several years ago, but I do remember that we hung out with our mutual friend once (that's how I knew he had been interested before- from that interaction). Maybe we did go out after that, and somehow I just don't remember haha. When I questioned him about this date, he was able to give details, how we were to XYZ place etc. I even called our mutual friend over and said "do you remember this?" but the guy in question said he never told our mutual friend. We joked about it, how he didn't ask me out again because I didn't seem too interested, etc. This guy assured me that he wasn't offended and to not worry about it. But as the night wore on, he kept coming back to talk to me. Now, I think my radar is pretty good at these things, he was definitely flirting. I just got this vibe from him and I might have entertained it by flirting back (I know...). All this while his girlfriend was not too far away, whom he never introduced by the way. At the end of the night, we hugged goodbye. And he was like we should do this again. Since we are not friends and only has a mutual friend whom I don't even see that often, PLUS he has a girlfriend, I jokingly said, "we probably won't." And I can't remember his exact words now but it was something like "oh we will". Didn't think much about it after and went to bed. The next morning I saw I had received a message on fb from him after we had left the bar (we are not fb friends)-- "I don't want to be forgotten again ;)" What could this possibly mean? Ok now I know I probably should just not respond but he was cute and we had great conversation/banter. I might also be in a vulnerable state right now after what happened with the last guy, so I am tempted to respond and get back in the game, but this is useless right if he already has a girlfriend? 1
BaileyB Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 If he has a girlfriend, you should stay away. Unless, of course, you are looking for drama.... Because this sounds like drama. 1
stillafool Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 He has a gf and anything that you two do will only be temporary leaving you once again feeling rejected and unfulfilled. But if you must, go ahead. 1
Lansing Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 Do you know for sure that the girl was actually his GF? Vs. a girl he was going on a date with or just a friend?
Author Nofairydust Posted January 8, 2017 Author Posted January 8, 2017 Yes the girl is his girlfriend. No one said "SHE IS HIS GF" or introduced her as such, but in conversations I heard friends refer to her and them together in a way that is clear that they are a couple. And they left together. Maybe my radar is completely off and the message is actually supposed to be innocent and platonic? Could that be a possibility? If I ignore, is it rude because we have mutual friends and maybe he did mean it innocently?
BaileyB Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 He's flirting with you... Why would you want to respond to a man who has a girlfriend, but flirts with another woman? If you must, respond to him... But do it with the full knowledge that he is in a relationship with another woman and you are walking right into the middle of this little drama...
preraph Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 So use logic. He's willing to cheat on his girlfriend to go out with a girl who blew him off years ago. So do you want to have this guy as a boyfriend -- and then know he's trying to cheat on you? Because this is who he is. You now know he's a cheater, so why even consider getting involved when you know how it will end? 1
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