clynn Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 I'm going out this week with a guy I've been dating. I'm feeling bad though cuz when he phoned to arrange the date, he asked when I was available. There is only one day out of the whole next week I'm available. He said he was going to golf with his brother that night, but that he would pass on that and we'd go out instead. So, I guess I'm feeling bad that I was inflexible with my plans when he quite willingly is going to cancel his plans to go out with me. I've since found out that I could actually be available on another night. Should I try to help him keep his plans with his brother? I feel badly about that. I don't like to get in the way of a guy with his friends or especially his family.
Dasani Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 If you're uncomfortable with it... do you like golf? ask him instead of breaking his plans with his bro... ask if you could go along. if that is something you wouldn't do... then take control of the date. He broke his golf date for you... now you return the favor and treat him (doesnt have to be enitre date) to somethign he'd enjoy! go to a driving range with him!! its ALWAYS fun to whack some balls... plus.. if you dont know much, if any, about golf.. you get to have him teach you and if you DO know how to play golf you can get competitive with him! plus you have another day available too! win win situation.
Author clynn Posted July 19, 2005 Author Posted July 19, 2005 Hmmm, yes I'd be totally game to 'play' golf, for sure.... but I do again feel it may be forward to invite myself along with he and his brother, may have been a boy thing. I'll certainly recognize his making the change in plans and thank him for it. I would suggest the driving range .... only thing is he did actually make a point of mentioning that he isn't really a golfer, he goes out only once in a while, usually to hang out with a friend (or brother, uncle) who golfs.... Thanks!
Pocky Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 Why don't you contact him and let him know that you have another free day if he wanted to schedule something then so that he wouldn't have to break his plans with his brother? It would be considerate of you.
Author clynn Posted July 19, 2005 Author Posted July 19, 2005 Yes, I'll let him know when we speak tonight that I can also be free on another night. Hopefully he hasn't broken plans with his brother yet!
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