MegasXLR Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 So here's the thing. Around October 2014 I met a girl while playing the game Multi Theft Auto : San Andreas at a racing server (I joined that server one month before I met the girl). At first we chatted only in the game chat, was just "hey" and "what's up" (I helped her to create her account for the server). But soon after that we exchanged our Facebook profiles and while she didn't use it often, we chatted there too and sent pictures, emojis, videos, etc. Then I found out her VK account by accident (she had posted it on her Facebook page) and I decided to create one as well. After that I asked her if she has anything against or if she felt weird about adding her on VK without directly asking her but she said there's no problem. From this day until May 2016 we communicated almost every day over VK, shared fun videos, songs, experiances and just enjoyed ourselves. She invited me to a SA-MP zombie server where she had been playing for 3 years already and I liked it, was good change from the race scene I've always played... But on 5 May 2016 she just told me that she doesn't want to talk to me anymore (through PM in the SA-MP server). At first I didn't understand why this happened and kept sending her e-mails and PMs on forums but nothing. Then I decided to never go back to that SA-MP server and focus on racing in MTA as a way to forget her...to no avail. I found myself constantly looking at her profiles and just remembering all the good times we had together. We've known eachother for 2 years now, but the last 8 months she hasn't said almost anything to me. Some months ago she came back to MTA and we talked a bit, she said that I've been talking behind her back and that I don't care about her. BUT I DO CARE, I never even thought something bad about her, but she just won't listen. I wanna proove to her that I'm the same guy with who she enjoyed playing and chatting almost a year ago. And before you say "maybe she's not real, maybe she's an old man", NO! We shared pretty much anything that happened to us and sent videos of ourselves goofing around + we had eachother's instagram and such profiles. She is real, but I don't know how to get back her friendship. We couldn't meet in real life as I live in Sofia, Bulgaria and she was in Orenburg, Russia at that time. Since June 2016 she moved to Kaliningrad, Russia which is closer to me but we still cannot meet in person. I tried anything to show her that I really care about her but she hasn't said a word to me. What to do?
preraph Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 When a woman tells you to leave her alone, leave her alone! It's total disrespect that you don't. She isn't interested in you or she would NEVER have told you she doesn't want to talk anymore. Even if there was some incident that made her mad, she STILL would not tell you she doesn't want to talk to you anymore if there was ANY romantic interest on her part. Move on. She doesn't like you!
Author MegasXLR Posted January 8, 2017 Author Posted January 8, 2017 When a woman tells you to leave her alone, leave her alone! It's total disrespect that you don't. She isn't interested in you or she would NEVER have told you she doesn't want to talk anymore. Even if there was some incident that made her mad, she STILL would not tell you she doesn't want to talk to you anymore if there was ANY romantic interest on her part. Move on. She doesn't like you! I just can't believe that she'd forget all the cool moments we had for a year and a half! It feels weird to cut off all contact like that.
Author MegasXLR Posted January 8, 2017 Author Posted January 8, 2017 How old are you ? I'm 19 years old.
bluefeather Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 You probably started acting creepy or said something that made her feel uncomfortable. It doesn't matter what you want or think, she told you to leave her alone. 1
LoveFiend Posted January 8, 2017 Posted January 8, 2017 (edited) I really wouldn't be holding out for some girl you met on an online game to be honest. She was just there for same reason you were, to have fun playing games online not there to look for a date. I use to play online games a lot and got along well with some females, but they made it very clear it was just being friends online and enjoying each others company playing the game. With online gaming you really have no idea who you are talking to. It could be another dude, an underage girl, a bot, a middle age guy who plays the part of a female because he is a sick creepy dude who is into 19yr old young men. ... you really don't know with online gaming, so any encounter I would not take seriously and I would be on my guard. If she really is a female and you decide to keep pursuing her who knows what her family might think or what action they may take. You don't know for sure if she is of adult age or an underage girl you just don't really know with online games. ... so I would just be very cautious and careful online Just because someone sends you pictures of a female and tells you this is a picture of "me" online, doesn't actually mean that is really a picture of the person your talking too. Edited January 8, 2017 by LoveFiend
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Dude it's over. She got over it and probably has met a local boy to date. You guys don't really have much when you can't even hold hands, kiss or have sex. She knows this is as far as it's gonna go, and she wants more. She will not be your last, there are other girls you will be with in the future. It's not the end of the world, in time you will think less of her. Now that you are 19, don't you think it's time to, work, make a life for yourself, make some friends, go out in public and meet women???? 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 OP it's over, just leave her alone. Honestly I think you may have came on a little too hard and scared her away -- only thing that explains the abrupt change in behavior from her.
Popsicle Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 There's a guy at my job that got stuck on a woman he met in an online game for years. We're talking over 5 years. He thought she just had temporary problems that were keeping her from moving to his state. Then he found out that she was married the whole time. Total shock. Don't waste your time with long distance relationships. People just like to play around in those.
Author MegasXLR Posted January 9, 2017 Author Posted January 9, 2017 (edited) @LoveFiend I actually almost never believe such things written in some profile as I know that, as you said, it can be some creep, underage girl or whatever. But here I'm sure she's a 20 year old girl, because it wasn't just pictures but videos as well. And yes, with other girls I play with it's as you said, "just being friends online enjoying each other's company playing the game" but this one was different. I feel like an idiot at the moment to be honest... @smackie9 I got friends and all that xd First wanna study the things at university before going to work though as I study informatics and if I don't know the basic stuff it's pretty much rip further in the profession. @barcode88, @Popsicle I'll try to concentrate working on my server, it helped before a bit. Edited January 9, 2017 by MegasXLR
smackie9 Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 Well if you are going to uni, there will be a smorgasbord of girls to choose from to occupy your free time. I would invest in that, rather some girl from a game that doesn't have an interest anymore. I'm a gamer too, and I learned it can suck the ever life out of ya lol. I used to put in 16-18 hour seshes. Life passes you by. 1
fireflywy Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 (edited) Sorry you feel bad about all of this but at least it wasn't an actual relationship where you spent physical time together. The other posters are right in that maybe she met someone local, is growing out of gaming, changing, etc. Honestly, I would take this as a positive lesson for your. How? It shows you can build a rapport with someone which can be applied to other areas of your life. This should give you some confidence friend. It also reveals how we can project our desires onto people without really knowing them. (Important lesson is that we shouldnt.) Lastly, it teaches you to respect boundaries (her saying leave her alone) which a lot of young people don't learn which makes them creepily awkward. (Learn this lesson) Now take this information and get out into the REAL world (don't waste your time gaming) and go meet a nice, real woman to connect with or, barring that develop yourself. Edited January 10, 2017 by fireflywy
Author MegasXLR Posted January 10, 2017 Author Posted January 10, 2017 (edited) @smackie9 never had 16h session just playing with some afk, yes. @fireflywy yea, although I still don't think it's so positive I know what NOT to do anymore. [Not talking about gaming, I love to waste time racing sometimes ] We met 2 years ago though, I was 17, she was 18 back then. Maybe we've both changed since then but she was the one who noticed it first. Edited January 10, 2017 by MegasXLR 1
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