Gone Cold? What Happened? Friends?

[covertaffairs71]

My girlfriend of 1 year and 6 months broke up with me about three months ago.

we met in high school she was my first everything, we have broken probably 2 serious times in this time period, The first was a heated argument that just went a little to far, and after some apologizing we were back together within about a week, however this time is different. Last time we broke up we lived in the same city, however I have now gone to college (which isn't far from home at all about a 30 min drive), however I do not have a car(because freshman aren't allowed to for the first year) so the only time I was able to see her was when she came to see me or the rarities of when I was able to come home on the weekends. For what I thought wasn't a problem for about 2 months, but in October she revealed to me that she no longer felt the same way about me and that she had been feeling this way for the last month and did not tell me because she wanted to be sure (She never tells me when she's unhappy). I was able to get her back last time by making her see me,ie. I would show up after she got off work take her to get something to eat and things like that and after a while she forgave me

 

We began the relationship as friends and were each others best friend even throughout the relationship. I had many flaws in the relationship, things that I have further realized through this time apart, as did she and she knows that she did, however, lately I have been missing her on an extremely deeper level than ever before, after the relationship, I basically put it out of my mind in about 2 weeks and have seen her about 3 times since then (crazy because we used to spend everyday together, and about 2-4 times a week when I was in college),

 

she was the nicest person while we were in a relationship and I mean that as in she wasn't mean to anybody not anybody, old friends that did her wrong, people she was no longer friends with for whatever reason she was never mean to anyone, if any of them texted her she would feel bad if she didn't respond. My point is this, if she was the one that broke up with me , and after some time I let her go whenever I contact her she's ice cold the conversation is one sided, and I maybe agree with her that we won't be together forever, but I at least want to be friends, why would she be acting this way??

 

On a surface level I want her back, I miss loving her, as most of the girls at my school I do not feel any special connection with, I wouldn't spend more than 1 night with any of them if you know what I'm getting at. However deep down inside i know that theres a fifty fifty chance that we would workout and I would be perfectly happy if we were just good friends, I just don't know how to make that happen

[whichwayisup]

Give it time. It's not good for either of you to jump back into a friendship so soon after breaking up. You both have to rid of the romantic feelings and attachment to one another to become friends. Sometimes it's possible, sometimes it's not depending on the break up.

 

Keep busy and give her space. Maybe if she doesn't see or hear from you for a month or so, she'll reach out and want to be friends.

[Simple Logic]

My girlfriend of 1 year and 6 months broke up with me about three months ago.

we met in high school she was my first everything, we have broken probably 2 serious times in this time period, The first was a heated argument that just went a little to far, and after some apologizing we were back together within about a week, however this time is different. Last time we broke up we lived in the same city, however I have now gone to college (which isn't far from home at all about a 30 min drive), however I do not have a car(because freshman aren't allowed to for the first year) so the only time I was able to see her was when she came to see me or the rarities of when I was able to come home on the weekends. For what I thought wasn't a problem for about 2 months, but in October she revealed to me that she no longer felt the same way about me and that she had been feeling this way for the last month and did not tell me because she wanted to be sure (She never tells me when she's unhappy). I was able to get her back last time by making her see me,ie. I would show up after she got off work take her to get something to eat and things like that and after a while she forgave me

 

We began the relationship as friends and were each others best friend even throughout the relationship. I had many flaws in the relationship, things that I have further realized through this time apart, as did she and she knows that she did, however, lately I have been missing her on an extremely deeper level than ever before, after the relationship, I basically put it out of my mind in about 2 weeks and have seen her about 3 times since then (crazy because we used to spend everyday together, and about 2-4 times a week when I was in college),

 

she was the nicest person while we were in a relationship and I mean that as in she wasn't mean to anybody not anybody, old friends that did her wrong, people she was no longer friends with for whatever reason she was never mean to anyone, if any of them texted her she would feel bad if she didn't respond. My point is this, if she was the one that broke up with me , and after some time I let her go whenever I contact her she's ice cold the conversation is one sided, and I maybe agree with her that we won't be together forever, but I at least want to be friends, why would she be acting this way??

On a surface level I want her back, I miss loving her, as most of the girls at my school I do not feel any special connection with, I wouldn't spend more than 1 night with any of them if you know what I'm getting at. However deep down inside i know that theres a fifty fifty chance that we would workout and I would be perfectly happy if we were just good friends, I just don't know how to make that happen

 

Simple. Most people who break up do not keep their ex as a friend. They have moved on.