ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by loony Hm, maybe because men are used to getting turned down all the time? So, they don't bother anymore to ask to much about the whys. (Oh my god, that sounds so logical. Why didn't I think about this before? ) I think we just care less. If you want to cast this in terms of evolutionary psychology, it was important for female - but not male - survival to know where you stood with potentially hostile members of the opposite sex. Ah, I forgot... What's the name of your cat? Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo I think we just care less. If you want to cast this in terms of evolutionary psychology, it was important for female - but not male - survival to know where you stood with potentially hostile members of the opposite sex. Some men on this board use the term evolution too loosely. Gottcha. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JS17 Posted July 19, 2005 Author Share Posted July 19, 2005 why do you care less? any tips for not getting attached and caring? Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewJ Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 other activities or a drug habit...only joking. thing swill get better im sure of it head up young one Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 why do you care less? If you didn't get the evolutionary psychology argument, the easiest thing is to just accept it. We guys obsess less about relationships. We don't think much about our partners when they're not there. It's just the way we are. any tips for not getting attached and caring? That would be sad. Attachments are one of the things that make life worth living. On the other hand, it's good advice to get attached slowly and over a long period of time. So you have time to see if the object of your affections is kind, trustworthy and emotionally stable. Originally posted by loony Some men on this board use the term evolution too loosely. Just because *your* bit of evolution has no psychology in it, doesn't mean that *my* bit doesn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JS17 Posted July 19, 2005 Author Share Posted July 19, 2005 i'm actually not that young, i'm 27, and i've had plenty of dating experience (and a full time job where i'm not doing any work at the moment ). i got burned on the last two guys i was with but this last one i just couldn't figure out and neither could my friends....they just said run in the other direction but i'm stubborn even though i have a more than full life, i do have a problem with getting attached too easily though and the answers that were being posted on why men can't just end things transitioned well into attachment. i've been working on it. thanks for the info everyone Link to post Share on other sites
Author JS17 Posted July 19, 2005 Author Share Posted July 19, 2005 i got the evolutionary explanation and i'm actually in grad school part time for conservation biology so i'm pretty familiar with genetics and instinctual mating patterns. but that doesn't explain why guys are lame Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 thanks for the info everyone Our pleasure Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 but that doesn't explain why guys are lame Maybe it's just the ones that *you* date Link to post Share on other sites
Author JS17 Posted July 19, 2005 Author Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Maybe it's just the ones that *you* date i think you're on to something there Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 i think you're on to something there Now all you need to do is work out how to change your love choices... Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo If you didn't get the evolutionary psychology argument, the easiest thing is to just accept it. We guys obsess less about relationships. We don't think much about our partners when they're not there. It's just the way we are. Dang... Let's accept it like the fact that they haven't reached the same sublime evolutionary level as women yet. They just need a little bit more of patience and love. Just because *your* bit of evolution has no psychology in it, doesn't mean that *my* bit doesn't. *Your*, ahem, bit? Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewJ Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 i got burned on the last two guys i was with but this last one i just couldn't figure out and neither could my friends....they just said run in the other direction but i'm stubborn The last guy who ur freinds told u to run from is he the reason for ur doubt? what do freinds no anyway trust the shackers Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by loony Dang... Let's accept it like the fact that they haven't reached the same sublime evolutionary level as women yet. They just need a little bit more of patience and love. Remember the quote: "it's only a step from the sublime to the ridiculous". *Your*, ahem, bit? My bit is highly evolved... you should conduct a field test sometime Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Remember the quote: "it's only a step from the sublime to the ridiculous". You know what the fox said about the grapes. My bit is highly evolved... you should conduct a field test sometime Highly evolved? Can it play music, too? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by loony Highly evolved? Can it play music, too? No, but it will make you sing... Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo No, but it will make you sing... You mean scream? Are you trying to scare me? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Sorry - computer problems... Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by loony You mean scream? Sing or scream. Whichever you prefer Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Sing or scream. Whichever you prefer Am I allowed to recite poems when I'm bored? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by loony Am I allowed to recite poems when I'm bored? When I'm not there you can do whatever you please... whatever whiles away the long hours until you next see me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JS17 Posted July 19, 2005 Author Share Posted July 19, 2005 The last one of the two is the one my friends told me to run from and also the one this post is about. I'm listening to both the shackers and my friends and cutting this guy out of my life. The first one really messed me up and I loved him. After the second one I thought maybe it was me but it's nice to have it confirmed that this guy is more nuts than me! Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewJ Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 well js17 keep clear of potential nut bars Insanity is good in small doses for some Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 when breakups occur or even just friendships ending, why can't men just be upfront and say goodbye? what's with jerking women around? why do we have to get to the point where we are so aggrivated that we say feck off? I've not read all the responses yet, so sorry if I repeat what someone else may have said. Personally I think it is the way (some) men cope. It's easier, less guilt, less having to deal with the other persons feelings and reactions. Questions that need answering for closure. It's not a happy situation, so it's avoidable. Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo When I'm not there you can do whatever you please... whatever whiles away the long hours until you next see me. If you leave me alone for such a long time, don't expect to still find me there. I stop hijacking the thread now. Sorry, JS17. I think you had bad luck with this guy, but I do not think that all guys are such jerks. Link to post Share on other sites
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