calvin94 Posted January 6, 2017 Posted January 6, 2017 So my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me after she asked for a break. I am really hurt about it and I saw it coming when she mentioned a break. She said were just too different but still has love for me as a person. I'm finding a huge amount of my pain is due to the fact that I keep thinking about her going out and hooking up/sleeping with someone or thinking of her getting into a new relationship. I did believe we were different but i never thought it was anything bad. She also said she had an interview for a new job and wanted to know if she should let me know what happens. I feel like this is really unfair because she wants both sides. How do you cope with the fact that your ex could be going out and hooking up with others? I know personally i am in no state to go do the same.
Whitestar Posted January 6, 2017 Posted January 6, 2017 She is ****ing other people. When my ex gf broke up with me the thought killed me. Took me over a year before I developed a thick enough skin to cope with it all.
Ilovepizzalady Posted January 6, 2017 Posted January 6, 2017 Oh God, I know exactly how you feel. Boyfriend of two years broke up with me, and immediately started dating his sister’s friend (who I had MET so I have the visual). She’s not very pretty but she is in great shape. Anyway, I am a masochist so I just follow her Instagram and it’s hashtag #love #happy, and they both think God intervened to bring them together. He also bought her a t-shirt to my favorite sporting event (I am super into tennis and neither of them even watch it) two weeks after we broke up, and bought her a bicycle. Love and happiness! Kill me. It’s excruciating. I feel for you. I think there is something about being in the 6 months-3 year range when breaking up that makes it really tough, because we are still feeling that sexual jealousy and spark and it’s much harder to deal with the thought of them being with other people at this point in the relationship. 1
The_Onceler Posted January 6, 2017 Posted January 6, 2017 I am so sorry. I remember the agony of that feeling. Your only real hope here is time and distance. You need to cut her out of your life completely. Do not bother with trying to remain friends. That is just a way for you to indulge your desire to reconcile with her. And for her, it helps her feel less guilty, and also keeps you around as a Plan B. You can find your way back to being friends with her 5 years from now, if you want. For now, maintaining any sort of contact with her will only prolong your agony. You need to walk away. Sorry I don't have better news... 1
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