i played part in split but need to figure out girlfriends self centred behaviour

[ohwell3211]

Hi Me(33) and my partner(31) were together for a Year we Love Each Other and had some great great times, i cant think of a woman id rather spend time with(at times haha)

 

However somethings i dont agree with and they add up yet she thinks its petty or im being stupid, but when its done to her she goes livid please read on

 

her son who is 6 was the start of our arguments(does the apple fall far?)he will walk through the bathroom when you are on the toilet like youre not even there, he also goes for a wee and just leaves the door open gets his little man out no probs will walk round naked etc but my 8 year old daughter finds this hugely embarassing

 

i get verbally nasty when we argued about it so i am at fault aswell we had a massive argument and she told her family we had split BUT SHE didnt tell me...she CARRIED on in a relationship with me and tbf spent all her spare time with me

 

i started to notice i hadnt seen the kids and no pics of us on FB(poison) she also unblocked all her exes which isnt a problem but they had slandered me Im starting to see her as a people pleaser and this is disrepectful to me yet she thinks shes the most loyal person in the world, she should be taking a bullet for me against anyone even if we argue when were home that one is wrong..she doesnt even like her family but theyve got totally the wrong impression of me

 

then to top it off she was cyber flirting with another guy and he was her!! as in my opinion on FB She APPEARED SINGLE , she was also adding about 2 pics of herself a day (having cake and eating it) to get attention she adds anyone from all over the world if it means more likes...

 

she lives with her stepdad and in all the time ive known her ive never known her to even give him 100 pounds as a thank you or a food shop for him

 

her grandad has her dog and ive known her to take the dog a walk twice in a year?

 

i please her sexually and if i woke her up 4 times in the night she would have sex with me however she never takes a moment to try and please me!!

 

she cant cook however shes never offered to do me beans on toast..

 

however if i asked her to bring me some aspirin to work i think she would have done that

 

she messaged me for hours the other night after our split i thought this is nice were getting on then at the end of the night she said shes got a "NEW CHAP" now regardless of whether she has or hasnt why is she texting me her undenying love and meeting someone else, even if she hasnt it just confirms shes an attention seeker? worried about her own needs,

 

then the other night she came round stayed we had a great night said wed rebuild and talk nice bit of passion but no sex fair play to her!!, then in the morning she said she doesnt know and its a shame because NO ONE CAN KNOW i was like WTF are you playing at, i thought you was gonna start sticking up for me !!!!!!!!!!! and to even more rowl me up she knows i cancelled my daughter that night so i thought we could resolve

 

whats going on? please advise i dont this childish NC im happy to do LC

 

i also dont want to play her games because she gets burned and then crys YET SHE KEEPS DOING IT ERR

 

thanks for reading

basically i want to return to how we were, and if she says im looking into things to much shes never admitted fault rowls me up even more

Edited January 6, 2017 by ohwell3211

[basil67]

I'm sorry you're in this situation. The thing I would advise is NC because you need to move on without her. I know you believe you love her, but it doesn't sound as though you like her. And she's got a new fella now anyway.

 

Why do you believe NC is childish? In the old days, we all did NC when we broke up - it didn't have a name as such, but you'd go your separate ways and be done with it. However today we have all this technology and somany ways which we connect. It's actually quite complex to disentangle, so it needs a name. The name is NC.

[ohwell3211]

hi i do love her like you say i dont like her behaviour but shes much better company in general than mostly all women ive been out with i just wish i could get her to see that her actions especially her online actions are disrepectful

 

i dont believe in NC as i wish to resolve with her which is why i said LC

 

and shes already started the breadcrumbs miss you, youtube songs

 

especially when shes had a drink shes unstoppable but then when shes sober she puts a wall back up