Qbert27 Posted July 18, 2005 Posted July 18, 2005 Okay So me and my SO broke up recently after a two year relationship. To say the least it has not been good for awhile now and there has been many problems. One main problem is that my SO would never feel at ease or comfortable around my family. I tried everything and so did my family, but she always felt "Inadequate" or "Not good enough." She has always been a bit insecure. Anyway recently the break up was because we were not on the same page in life nothing to do with our parents. She broke up with me because she wanted to start saving for a house in Liverpool and prepare for marriage and everything else that we had both planned on. I wanted to go back to school because my current job was making me unhappy. She didn't support this idea ( she says I didn't discuss it with her, even though I did almost 9 months notice) I think she means in terms that I didnt discuss it with her as in she didnt have a say in it if I went back to school. But really we aren't married, or engaged it's my decision and it would benefit us both in the long run right? Anyway she broke up with me because of it. A week later she wants to get back together with me, but I refused. Because I can't trust her. Whenever bad things happen she usually initiates a "break-up" and puts me through alot of grief and stress and yeah we get back together a few days later, but enough is enough, I've gone through about 5 or 6 of these now and it's embarrassing to me because I have to tell my parents and friends that we break up and then a few days later we are back together. As well she doesn't really do much for me like little things, that I do for her, she never comes to family functions, when she does I have to almost force her to come, on my birthday with family or graduation with family, both were stressful days because I was fighting with her trying to get my own girlfriend to come to important events in my life She claims that she doesn't get along with my brother and that's why shes always been awkward around my family. Even though her reasoning for this has just happened in the last few weeks. And she has been refusing to come to family events for ages now. She even refused a free trip to Germany with me and my family. My brother and sister had their SO's there, but not me. I just don't think she has made any effort in many areas in this relationship. The relationship has been very unequal for a long time now. I hardly get a say in anything, where we go out to dinner, what movies we watch and if I do she gets all unhappy and pouty. Just recently she told her friend that she barely sees every and isnt a good friend at all, that my brother stares at her chest and is a "jerk" and that's why we broke up, when really it was because of her because she broke up with me. She fails to mention the other reasons, I just think she totally crossed the line blabbing that stuff to people that aren't even close cursing my family because she wore a dress that was VERY revealing on an occasion that probably didn't call for it and my brother was probably shocked to see her wearing it. Please what does everyone think? what should I do?
Mr.P Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 Sit down and have a long chat, sort all your problems out. As it was suggested to me, get some rules drawn up. I too have been through 4 break ups with the same girl and it is embarrassing saying to friends and family you have broken up, only to get back together again. I want another chance with her, but she has got a lot of work to do on herself first. So if you do that, things may well be bright for you and her in the future.
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