phineas Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 Yup... plus my BC pill, maybe a change of underwear, depending on what I have to do the next day... Though sometimes I am not prepared, as it happens spur of the moment. But it doesn't phase me at all. There's bound to be some elixir in the bathroom or something. Put my hair in a messy bun, deal with the panda eyes... Boom! on the rare occasion i go to the woman's i keep an overnight bag handy. really not a big deal.
Gaeta Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 I'm the man. she comes to me. She don't want to? She's not that into me. and many have had no problem meeting me for the first time in my driveway and spending the night. Sorry but you are not representing the norm. Normal grounded women do not go meet men in their driveway or go spend the night at a stranger's home. There is a small portion of people that will do that but they play with their security and frankly they are just desperate to get some attention or sex. 1
phineas Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 Sorry but you are not representing the norm. Normal grounded women do not go meet men in their driveway or go spend the night at a stranger's home. There is a small portion of people that will do that but they play with their security and frankly they are just desperate to get some attention or sex. don't slutshame. its unbecoming of you. but let me clarify. Whether it is the first date or any date after that. They still come to me when it is time for them to spend the night.
Gaeta Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 don't slutshame. its unbecoming of you. but let me clarify. Whether it is the first date or any date after that. They still come to me when it is time for them to spend the night. I am not slutshaming. I am pretty liberal in my thinking and women should have sex anytime they wish. That being said I disagree women should be the one driving to a man's house for a first encounter. As an adult man you should understand between you and them it is THEM that are vulnerable and you should offer them the security and the comfort of their own home. It's alright if you don't understand it. 2
phineas Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 I am not slutshaming. I am pretty liberal in my thinking and women should have sex anytime they wish. That being said I disagree women should be the one driving to a man's house for a first encounter. As an adult man you should understand between you and them it is THEM that are vulnerable and you should offer them the security and the comfort of their own home. It's alright if you don't understand it. I don't understand because 90% of the time it's their idea to come to my house either for the first date or after the first date. the other 10% they come is because there is something going on near my house and they are meeting me there then we go out. They almost always end up spending the night also afterword. perhaps because i tend to talk on the phone/skype with them multiple times before we meet they feel comfortable enough to come over? And i'm not an ax murderer and don't have a rape dungeon. They know because i tell them.
Timshel Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 on the rare occasion i go to the woman's i keep an overnight bag handy. really not a big deal. What's in it? OP, no rush. When you feel comfortable for an overnight, carpe diem. 1
elaine567 Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 I have depression, i have to take a wack of pills when i get up... im not ready to share that part of my life yet, But a little pill box like this and put it in your bag. It doesn't look like a pill box, so why would he find out? Maybe better to carry some pills with you anyway, you never know when there may be an emergency in your life and you can't get home.
phineas Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 What's in it? OP, no rush. When you feel comfortable for an overnight, carpe diem. toothbrush, bar soap, mini-shampoo, pit-rub, cologne, underwear, jeans, socks, t-shirt, aspirin, rubbers. everything i need to get up and go the next morning. usually though i don't spend the night unless drinking too much. 1
ASG Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 I am not slutshaming. I am pretty liberal in my thinking and women should have sex anytime they wish. That being said I disagree women should be the one driving to a man's house for a first encounter. As an adult man you should understand between you and them it is THEM that are vulnerable and you should offer them the security and the comfort of their own home. It's alright if you don't understand it. I prefer to go to the guy's house. With my FWB, I've been to his house almost every time we slept together, apart from a couple where we went to mine. In general, I tend to always go to the guy's house, whether it's a first date or not. Though they are usually not complete strangers.
Gaeta Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 I prefer to go to the guy's house. With my FWB, I've been to his house almost every time we slept together, apart from a couple where we went to mine. In general, I tend to always go to the guy's house, whether it's a first date or not. Though they are usually not complete strangers. Is there a special reason you prefer to go to their place? No matter what man I date my home is always more comfortable and clean. My ex-b apartment was clean but his bathroom was big like a broom closet. My current boyfriend's apartment is the size of a garden shed, you can't turn around in there and don't get me started on his bathroom. Maybe at my age I prefer being in my home, my things and my comfort.
purrrfectlyflawed Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 I am not comfortable staying the night with anyone regardless of whos house it is. I am weird about that. It would need to be discussed in advance and I would need to be ready. I have my own place, my own routine, I don't like giving it up until I am super comfortable around him and I know he really likes me. So for me, its sex then one of us goes home. Do the same until you are ready.
ASG Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 Is there a special reason you prefer to go to their place? No matter what man I date my home is always more comfortable and clean. My ex-b apartment was clean but his bathroom was big like a broom closet. My current boyfriend's apartment is the size of a garden shed, you can't turn around in there and don't get me started on his bathroom. Maybe at my age I prefer being in my home, my things and my comfort. It tends to be logistics, really. Most of the guys I've dated in the past few years either lived on their own or only had one housemate. I have several. So it made more sense. Also, in some way, I feel uncomfortable bringing people into my own space, mostly because my room tends to be messy AF. I don't object to it, but if the guy suggests going to theirs, unless it's a million miles away, I'll agree to it. But make no mistake.. if I go to the guy's house once and I'm not comfortable there... I'm not going back. 2
losangelena Posted January 14, 2017 Posted January 14, 2017 Sorry but you are not representing the norm. Normal grounded women do not go meet men in their driveway or go spend the night at a stranger's home. There is a small portion of people that will do that but they play with their security and frankly they are just desperate to get some attention or sex. Meh, this has not been my experience, Gaeta. Talk about painting with bold strokes. I recently hit it off with a guy at bar trivia. When he invited me to his place for the night, I willingly went. He lives closer, and he lives alone. I live with three other women, one who screeches bloody murder if I bring someone home. For me, his place was preferred. I wasn't "desperate for sex," I was being practical. FWIW, I've never had a problem going over to a guy's house. Obviously, if I don't feel comfortable, I don't go, but I for one find it pretty easy to gauge when a man is "normal" and has nothing to hide.
ThisisIt606 Posted January 15, 2017 Posted January 15, 2017 Just pack a small overnight pouch you can put in your purse. Get some travel sized items of the essentials (deodorant, hair brush, mini tooth brush, maybe some cover up/make up supplies, change of clothes). Use his toothpaste and shower supplies.
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 15, 2017 Posted January 15, 2017 This always took me a while. Probably at least a couple of months. I like to sleep and get up on my own turf, with own stuff. I would sleep over eventually but still wasn't entirely comfortable with it. I need my stuff, and my parameters. Not a toothbrush and a tampon in the medicine cabinet. 1
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