Remystacks Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 OK, So just some quick background. Been talking to this guy almost a month. Spend a couple nights a week hanging out (I work nights so it's hard for me to spend oodles of time with someone) Slept with him pretty early, probably 3rd or 4th date Now everytime we hang out we "magically" end up at his place. I don't mind but he's always asking me spend the night, stay over... I don't want too lol Partly the fact I don't spend enough time in my own bed and partly cause us females are work lol... hair, face... my before bed/wake up routine I don't think I'm ready to share with him yet... Am I wrong for this? Ladies, how long did it take you to stay at someone you were dating place? I mean stay over and be comfortable..
winny Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 I dont have any routines so... I dont follow a timeline... But I would rather have him over at my place than stay at his... 4
SwordofFlame Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 The solution is to end up at your place instead of his. 3
Ronnys93 Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 Just ask when you're ready? I don't think he'd mind really.
basil67 Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 Live on the wild side - skip the routine! I'm sure he'll still think you're great even with panda eyes 1
basil67 Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 As for when I feel comfortable staying the night? I stayed overnight with my now husband on the night of the day we met. Frankly, I don't understand the whole high maintenance routine thing. 3
Author Remystacks Posted January 5, 2017 Author Posted January 5, 2017 As for when I feel comfortable staying the night? I stayed overnight with my now husband on the night of the day we met. Frankly, I don't understand the whole high maintenance routine thing. I didn't know brushing your teeth etc was high maintenance lol 2
umirano Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 I didn't know brushing your teeth etc was high maintenance lol He doesn't have an extra toothbrush for you? 1
basil67 Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 I didn't know brushing your teeth etc was high maintenance lol We went straight from drinking to shagging. No time for teeth brushing LOL 4
heavenonearth Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 Then buy a second toothbrush and carry it in your pocket. Done. Now you are ready to stay at his place. 1
kidm Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 You don't want him to see your routine of brushing your teeth? WTF. Your initial post makes it seems like you're one of those high maintenance girls who need to put their face on/off- makeup, eyelashes, etc. and don't want the guy to see what they *really* look like.
ASG Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 I have no issues staying over straight away. Where I live, it's the norm, anyway, as no one drives and in the middle of the night it's a nightmare to get home. I don't understand what this routine is... If I *know* I'm spending the night at someone's house, I pack a small bag or just throw some toiletries in my hand bag. Done!
BaileyB Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 I don't understand what this routine is... If I *know* I'm spending the night at someone's house, I pack a small bag or just throw some toiletries in my hand bag. Done! Agreed. Toothbrush in my purse and I'm ready to go...
dpass Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 If you are the type that cakes your face in makeup and fake eyelashes, hair extensions, wears push up bras and whatever else women use these days, he's going to figure it out eventually. No normal guy will be weirded out by you brushing your teeth or wiping off a normal amount of makeup. 3
ASG Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 Agreed. Toothbrush in my purse and I'm ready to go... Yup... plus my BC pill, maybe a change of underwear, depending on what I have to do the next day... Though sometimes I am not prepared, as it happens spur of the moment. But it doesn't phase me at all. There's bound to be some elixir in the bathroom or something. Put my hair in a messy bun, deal with the panda eyes... Boom! 1
RecentChange Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 If I am comfortable enough with a man to have sex with him, I am comfortable enough with him to spend the night. Isn't sleeping together after sex one of the great joys in life? (Plus the midnight or morning sex) I don't wear much make up, so I have never had that concern. And I can skip the face wash and old lady night cream on occasion. Give me a wash cloth (which can double as a toothbrush in a jam) and I am set. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 I always stay the night the first time I have sex. My morning routine is brushing teeth and putting on eyeliner. Takes a minute. 2
amkxoxo Posted January 5, 2017 Posted January 5, 2017 My ex boyfriend and I didn't want a strict routine, but we eventually had to make a schedule or sorts. He was staying over my place on weeknights, when I would work early in the morning. He snored and I never slept well when he stayed so eventually we made it only weekends he stayed over. Weeknights we would hangout until late, but he always went home, or I went home, so we could get good sleep for our jobs. Weekends he would stay over one night and I the other. Friday and Saturday. You could set something like that up? Its pretty early for you to be staying there a lot. Tell him you want to take things slow, because there is no reason to rush. Girl, I always go by no sex before monogamy, but you have sort of broken that already. If he's a decent guy, he should be okay with whatever you want. Be confident. If you want to go home, go home. If he likes you a lot, he will respect you. If you want to invite him over to stay spur of the moment some time, have a toothbrush handy and have him stay. 1
No_Go Posted January 6, 2017 Posted January 6, 2017 Let see - when I stay overnight (even if I travel alone for example), I take in a small bag: 1) travel size tooth brush % paste 2) travel size shower gel 3) 2-3 samples of moisturizers (haha, any trip to Sephora leaves me with heaps of these - so it is a great occasion to utilize them) 4) make up: mascara (usually sample size), eyeliner, lipstick (doubles up as blush), brow gel and foundation All this fits in my usual purse (that fits my laptop and chargers as well), and my morning routine is 10 mins - quick shower including brushing teeth (5 min), and make up (5 mins). That being said - if you're having sex with the guy, spending 10 min in his bathroom shouldn't be an issue. And if you have safety concerns to stay overnight - better skip going to his place all together.
Gaeta Posted January 6, 2017 Posted January 6, 2017 Why don't you invite him to your place instead? Like the other ladies on here I don't have a routine per say. I don't wear make-up or very little. I have long hair so they don't need anything special in the morning. In my purse I have a small pouch in which I have a tooth brush, panties, all purpose cream, and a tampon. That's my survival kit. If you drive to his place then why not keep in your car at all time a bag with change of clothes and products you'd like to have in the morning. 2
Author Remystacks Posted January 7, 2017 Author Posted January 7, 2017 If you are the type that cakes your face in makeup and fake eyelashes, hair extensions, wears push up bras and whatever else women use these days, he's going to figure it out eventually. No normal guy will be weirded out by you brushing your teeth or wiping off a normal amount of makeup. No im not that type that changes into a diffreent person every morning lol.. but i have certain things i do in the morning im not ready to reveal.. i have clinical depression, i have pills in the morning i have to take.. i dont want to let him know that part of me yet..
Author Remystacks Posted January 7, 2017 Author Posted January 7, 2017 You don't want him to see your routine of brushing your teeth? WTF. Your initial post makes it seems like you're one of those high maintenance girls who need to put their face on/off- makeup, eyelashes, etc. and don't want the guy to see what they *really* look like. Ummm no actually thats not the case.. i just have certain things that im embarrassed to reveal.. as stated in another quote. I have depression, i have to take a wack of pills when i get up... im not ready to share that part of my life yet, i work in healthcare, so i rarely sleep and when i do i SNORE.. kind of embarrassed about that too.. im not going to give you all every detail but as i stated... im not comfortable enough to share that side of me yet. Yes, eventually he will see all that but can i not win the guy over with my sparkling personality forst?! Yeeeeeeesh
Author Remystacks Posted January 7, 2017 Author Posted January 7, 2017 My ex boyfriend and I didn't want a strict routine, but we eventually had to make a schedule or sorts. He was staying over my place on weeknights, when I would work early in the morning. He snored and I never slept well when he stayed so eventually we made it only weekends he stayed over. Weeknights we would hangout until late, but he always went home, or I went home, so we could get good sleep for our jobs. Weekends he would stay over one night and I the other. Friday and Saturday. You could set something like that up? Its pretty early for you to be staying there a lot. Tell him you want to take things slow, because there is no reason to rush. Girl, I always go by no sex before monogamy, but you have sort of broken that already. If he's a decent guy, he should be okay with whatever you want. Be confident. If you want to go home, go home. If he likes you a lot, he will respect you. If you want to invite him over to stay spur of the moment some time, have a toothbrush handy and have him stay. Thank you for your comment and not assuming im trying to hide from the guy.. i will defiantly take this advice thank you so much!:bunny:
Gaeta Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 Ummm no actually thats not the case.. i just have certain things that im embarrassed to reveal.. as stated in another quote. I have depression, i have to take a wack of pills when i get up... im not ready to share that part of my life yet, i work in healthcare, so i rarely sleep and when i do i SNORE.. kind of embarrassed about that too.. im not going to give you all every detail but as i stated... im not comfortable enough to share that side of me yet. Yes, eventually he will see all that but can i not win the guy over with my sparkling personality forst?! Yeeeeeeesh You should have shared that with us at first We just went around and around thinking you're the type of girl that needs to paint a face over her face each morning. You said you stayed at his place already? so he must have noticed your snoring? have you consulted a doctor about it? Can you take your medication in the washroom?
phineas Posted January 7, 2017 Posted January 7, 2017 The solution is to end up at your place instead of his. I'm the man. she comes to me. She don't want to? She's not that into me. and many have had no problem meeting me for the first time in my driveway and spending the night.
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