Mjm1014 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I'm 29 year old guy and have horrible luck when it comes to dating in the past two-three years or so. I have a great job (pilot), I work out every day, very close to my parents, and for the most part I think I'm an average possibly even slightly above average looking despite my height at 5'6. Over the years, I've noticed I really haven't changed physically and still look the same in my pictures from 5-10 years ago if not slightly better since I've been working out..but the thing is, in the past, I never really had an issue with attracting the opposite sex, but lately it's non existent. I've signed up on pof, tinder, bumble, had my cousins try to set me up multiple times, but something is turning them all off...if I do ever manage a date, I never hear from them again, and some women are straight up cruel (went on a date last week, called her a day or two later and someone picks up the phone and says I must have the wrong number and to not call again), or they tell me "you're such a nice guy, but I'm not feeling it." It's just rejection after rejection anymore. I've also noticed girls commenting on my height a lot more than they use to when I was in my early twenties. It's hard for me to even get anyone to talk to me on these sites, and if they do 99% of the time they aren't interested in meeting up. The only thing I can think of is women at this age are looking for mr.perfect, or because the dating sites are much more popular now so they have a million options-there is always someone better basically and less options since a lot of women are married by my age-and they know it. As for who I go for, I don't think I aim out of my league. I even ask out women that are slightly overweight but am still attracted to them. It seems zero are attracted or want to get to know me all of a sudden. What am I suppose to do, go out with someone I'm not attracted to at all (missing teeth, morbidly obese, heavy smokers)... I don't really know any other way to meet someone at this point since my friends all live in different cities (I moved a lot for my career), so basically outside of OLD I'm stuck going out solo to bars/clubs/gym to meet them..which doesn't seem like that great of an option being "that guy on the hunt" and to be honest, I approach women rarely in public because I don't want to come off creepy.. I'm not really sure what I'm asking, but am looking for some feedback. Guys, this age, are you having some of the same luck? I feel like I have a good package yet no women give me the time of day. Kind of a vent post, but am so discouraged it's not even funny..approaching 30 everyone I know is engaged, married, and everyone keeps asking consistently why I'm not meeting anyone anymore. I wish I seized the day when I was younger and had the options lol :/
heavenonearth Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I'm 29 year old guy and have horrible luck when it comes to dating in the past two-three years or so. I have a great job (pilot), I work out every day, very close to my parents, and for the most part I think I'm an average possibly even slightly above average looking despite my height at 5'6. Over the years, I've noticed I really haven't changed physically and still look the same in my pictures from 5-10 years ago if not slightly better since I've been working out..but the thing is, in the past, I never really had an issue with attracting the opposite sex, but lately it's non existent. I've signed up on pof, tinder, bumble, had my cousins try to set me up multiple times, but something is turning them all off...if I do ever manage a date, I never hear from them again, and some women are straight up cruel (went on a date last week, called her a day or two later and someone picks up the phone and says I must have the wrong number and to not call again), or they tell me "you're such a nice guy, but I'm not feeling it." It's just rejection after rejection anymore. I've also noticed girls commenting on my height a lot more than they use to when I was in my early twenties. It's hard for me to even get anyone to talk to me on these sites, and if they do 99% of the time they aren't interested in meeting up. The only thing I can think of is women at this age are looking for mr.perfect, or because the dating sites are much more popular now so they have a million options-there is always someone better basically and less options since a lot of women are married by my age-and they know it. As for who I go for, I don't think I aim out of my league. I even ask out women that are slightly overweight but am still attracted to them. It seems zero are attracted or want to get to know me all of a sudden. What am I suppose to do, go out with someone I'm not attracted to at all (missing teeth, morbidly obese, heavy smokers)... I don't really know any other way to meet someone at this point since my friends all live in different cities (I moved a lot for my career), so basically outside of OLD I'm stuck going out solo to bars/clubs/gym to meet them..which doesn't seem like that great of an option being "that guy on the hunt" and to be honest, I approach women rarely in public because I don't want to come off creepy.. I'm not really sure what I'm asking, but am looking for some feedback. Guys, this age, are you having some of the same luck? I feel like I have a good package yet no women give me the time of day. Kind of a vent post, but am so discouraged it's not even funny..approaching 30 everyone I know is engaged, married, and everyone keeps asking consistently why I'm not meeting anyone anymore. I wish I seized the day when I was younger and had the options lol :/ It's ok - you are still young. You will be ok if you won't find someone in the next 10 years, which I am sure you will. If you want some advice on how to meet women, have your dating scheme analyzed, PM me, I'd love to help out (many years of OLD experience here, and being a girl receiving many messages from men and having seen everything that's possible in a dating profile, I think I know my way around). Where do you live? I'll hit the bars with you and be your wingwoman
SwordofFlame Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 Do you frequently have to stay overnight in different towns cause of your job as a pilot? As a guy, I have to admit I don't think I would ever date a flight attendant or pilot seriously for that reason. Unless that's not true at all lol. I feel like there's a perception of a certain lifestyle that goes along with it. But who knows, wouldn't women be attracted to pilots?
umirano Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 A few thoughts: It's a numbers game, you can't give up just because you haven't found gold yetApproaching in public doesn't have to be creepy. Just be friendly, and smile. Only sociopaths see this as creepy.If you entered a relationship when you were younger you'd probably also be on loveshack, but complaining about GIGS. You just can't win in dating The fact that we can look at a hundred women (or men) before even putting our shoes on definitely makes people less likely to go on a date. But what are you going to do. It's how things are.Sometimes people have really bad texting game and that may play a role in not getting first dates. Share some texts you send and we can look at them. 1
LargoLagg Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 Have you ever been on a hot streak when it was hitting on all cylinders for you? Maybe this is just the opposite, and you've got to ride it out the same way you did when it was fun. Hopefully, you also knew then it wouldn't last forever.
duncsvoice Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 I'm 31, 5'5'', moderately attractive (I like to think), a bit soft around the middle and starting to go grey. What a catch! Started 2016 having a shocking break up with my fiance and spent the year convinced I'd die alone etc etc. Fast forward ten months, I've given up on online dating, being ghosted etc, left my profile active just to have the occasional browse. Just carried on ENJOYING being single, and doing my own thing and working on myself. Get a message from a girl who'd seen me out at a Halloween party...two months later things are going amazingly. Long story short, I stopped looking. There are a million other blokes out there who are infinitely more attractive than me, but I just stayed confident, funny and when I realised I liked my date, I didn't **** about and let her know I wanted to see her again...and did!
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