bambidjm Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I broke up with someone I was seeing for 5 months. Would like advice and learn from my mistake. This person instigated the relationship she kissed me first and the relationship was great for the first few months. I was a bit apprehensive at first with her. She was not someone I fell for at first instance. But getting to know her personality how she cared for people and sense of humour. She would always text, say encouraging things and sending smiley faces. So when she broke it off she said that was not interested in me in that way. What shocked me was that the weekend before she came to my place wanted to see me we were passionate. Then the morning before she broke it off with me she invited me to new years eve party with her friends. She said that there were signs in the relationship that it was not going anywhere due to her cancelling me quite often and not coming to my place. She said that if she was interested in someone she would make the effort. I asked her as to why she lead me on to think that she like me through always holding me/kissing sending encouraging texts and always wanting to know how I am. This person would always text me in the morning and say good morning to me. I was not as interested in her in the beginning but over time I think with the amount of affection she was showing I really liked her. She mentioned that she really tried and waited to see if she had feelings for me. She got scared because she felt I was really into her. What did I miss in all of this? Was I too naive.
umirano Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 Hard to tell. I think these post relationship analyses usually aren't very helpful. I know, we all do it anyway. You weren't into each other but yet wanted to bootstrap the relationship, by being affectionate and responsive. She eventually figured out it's not going to work. That's it. No harm done. Go NC, move on. Source: Done the same thing, only I did it for 17 months, so you got off easy.
Sweetfish Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 I broke up with someone I was seeing for 5 months. Would like advice and learn from my mistake. This person instigated the relationship she kissed me first and the relationship was great for the first few months. I was a bit apprehensive at first with her. She was not someone I fell for at first instance. But getting to know her personality how she cared for people and sense of humour. She would always text, say encouraging things and sending smiley faces. So when she broke it off she said that was not interested in me in that way. What shocked me was that the weekend before she came to my place wanted to see me we were passionate. Then the morning before she broke it off with me she invited me to new years eve party with her friends. She said that there were signs in the relationship that it was not going anywhere due to her cancelling me quite often and not coming to my place. She said that if she was interested in someone she would make the effort. I asked her as to why she lead me on to think that she like me through always holding me/kissing sending encouraging texts and always wanting to know how I am. This person would always text me in the morning and say good morning to me. I was not as interested in her in the beginning but over time I think with the amount of affection she was showing I really liked her. She mentioned that she really tried and waited to see if she had feelings for me. She got scared because she felt I was really into her. What did I miss in all of this? Was I too naive. You don't want to be with this person. It appears her emotions are totally in the drivers seat. "If i didn't eat this cookie.. it had to be the cookie was not worth eatting" Wth? You seriously dont want to be in a relationship...where your faith can be doomed at the tip of an emotional flip of a switch. 1
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