Ryan52 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I matched with this girl on tinder and we agreed to meet up for a date. She canceled last minute becase she wasn’t feeling well. We rescheduled for the following week due to me being busy. We talked nonstop for that week. Hours before that date she cancels and wants to reschedule for the next day. She claims she has family issues. Well fast forward to the next day, she cancels again because the issues are not resolved. She’s canceled the first date 3 times but says it’s due to family. Should I even reply?
SunnySide0418 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I wouldn't. If she's serious about meeting you let her initiate. 2
Larryville Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 Absolutely not. Guys should stop rewarding flakes! 3
smackie9 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 She cancels a lot and has family issues (supposedly), this fails, too much hassle, block delete, move on. 2
Grey40 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 At this point probably not, I've made that mistake before where I allowed girls to keep canceling on me, I would keep them on the backburner, wait like 2 weeks and then ask them out again, only to get the same response. The good news is that she's offering an alternative time to reschedule, so I don't think she's uninterested, but she's just too damn busy/pre-occupied to date right now. It's been too many flakes, let her come to you now.
heavenonearth Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 Ok, here is my honest advice: Give her one more chance. Ask her, but make sure that you will only meet her if she is truly sure about meeting up now. See, the thing is, I was in a situation like this. I met a guy on an online dating website, we texted a lot, wanted to meet, and all of a sudden I had a deadline sneaking up on me. So I canceled. The week after I got really sick from that Uni stress, and I told him I meet him next week and guess what? The week after I was still not better, as the sickness went on for 4 weeks (terrible flu). What I am saying is, I felt really bad about canceling on him about 3 times, but see, now we have been dating for over 2 months because he was really patient with me and recognized we had chemistry that was worthwhile. I would not dismiss her just yet. I would give her a chance. Get to know her. Her family issues me not be a big deal in the long run, or maybe it won't be a big deal for a future relationship. Don't judge others and what they are going through without knowing. You never know what great person you are 'nexting'. Best of luck.
basil67 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 Let's for a moment assume that she's telling the truth. It would mean that her personal life is far too consuming for her to consider dating at present. 8
kendahke Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I matched with this girl on tinder and we agreed to meet up for a date. She canceled last minute becase she wasn’t feeling well. We rescheduled for the following week due to me being busy. We talked nonstop for that week. Hours before that date she cancels and wants to reschedule for the next day. She claims she has family issues. Well fast forward to the next day, she cancels again because the issues are not resolved. She’s canceled the first date 3 times but says it’s due to family. Should I even reply? Nope. Leave her alone. She has a messy life and really shouldn't be trying to date until she cleans thing up. You two haven't even met--you really don't owe her anything. 1
morrowrd Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 You're smart to consider not responding. Strong if you follow though. And a man if you dismiss her and walk away. My advice? Be a man.
spiderowl Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 No, do not give her any attention after she has let you down so often. It is best to move on and date others instead.
heavenonearth Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I am surprised by the animosity people on this thread give towards the girl in question. You are very early to judge. How do you know her life is messy? Maybe this is a temporary thing? Maybe she will be more available the coming weeks? Who knows? Why do people only think about themselves and can not ever give the benefit of the doubt? I was in girl's situation recently and I am happy the guy I canceled on three times (see my post above) gave me another chance, now we are dating, and we are very happy. You never know what you miss out on just because you dismiss people after judging them without full knowledge of what's going on. I don't get it. Edit: I wouldn't even call it 'give a chance', he just had compassion because I was sick. Lol. That's what normal compassionate humans do. But the serial daters out there would not understand. it's just always 'next, next, next'. Kinda frustrating.
winny Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I matched with this girl on tinder and we agreed to meet up for a date. She canceled last minute becase she wasn’t feeling well. We rescheduled for the following week due to me being busy. We talked nonstop for that week. Hours before that date she cancels and wants to reschedule for the next day. She claims she has family issues. Well fast forward to the next day, she cancels again because the issues are not resolved. She’s canceled the first date 3 times but says it’s due to family. Should I even reply? Drop her a text and ask her to reach out to you when she has all issues sorted out and leave it at that. If and when if she reaches out and if you are not seeing anyone else then give her a chance. Simple. 2
heavenonearth Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 Drop her a text and ask her to reach out to you when she has all issues sorted out and leave it at that. If and when if she reaches out and if you are not seeing anyone else then give her a chance. Simple. Good response. I remember my guy reached out to me 2 weeks after I canceled on him and then we finally got together So I think he could also reach out again a few weeks later, perhaps.
dumbass2 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I matched with this girl on tinder and we agreed to meet up for a date. She canceled last minute becase she wasn’t feeling well. We rescheduled for the following week due to me being busy. We talked nonstop for that week. Hours before that date she cancels and wants to reschedule for the next day. She claims she has family issues. Well fast forward to the next day, she cancels again because the issues are not resolved. She’s canceled the first date 3 times but says it’s due to family. Should I even reply? Very simply reply "Let me know if you would like to go out once you have your issues resolved" She's either being truthful, in which case she has too much going on right now which doesn't bode well for dating or since she is on Tinder she may be playing you right now in order to see how things go with someone else she has actually gone out with. Either way, you come off as non judgemental and leave the ball in her court and now you can move forward and contact other women to go out with. It's called the "dating game" for a reason.
Author Ryan52 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Posted January 4, 2017 Well I decided to not reply. I don't understand why people agree to plans or even make plans if they are going to cancel. What's the point?
heavenonearth Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 Well I decided to not reply. I don't understand why people agree to plans or even make plans if they are going to cancel. What's the point? Serial dater, on to the next... well, why the thread in the first place then?
olivetree Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 Well I decided to not reply. I don't understand why people agree to plans or even make plans if they are going to cancel. What's the point? Yes, and cancelling just a couple of hours before each time shows a lack of respect.
heavenonearth Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 American mentality... always nexting people. Tz...
phineas Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 Well I decided to not reply. I don't understand why people agree to plans or even make plans if they are going to cancel. What's the point? attention. ego boost. has a BF she's on tinder and swiped someone hotter? what does it matter. i've run into this multiple times from online. you didn't respond. Good. within the week you may get another text. i'd ignore that also.
heavenonearth Posted January 4, 2017 Posted January 4, 2017 I disagree with phineas. But I still think that you should give her the benefit of the doubt. But I am just speaking from personal experience. I would not be with my boyfriend right now, if he'd given up on me after I canceled 3 times.
Author Ryan52 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Posted January 4, 2017 American mentality... always nexting people. Tz... If you think I'm in the wrong I'm not. We agreed three different times on a time and a place. I'm not the one who backed out all three times at the last minute. My intentions were obviously clear. It shouldn't be this hard to meet someone for an hour or two.
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