MeadowFlower Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 Hey guys, This is my first post ever on LS, but I have been reading threads for a little while and some have actually helped, even though they've been from a long time ago. Anyway, does anyone have experience and kind advice on how to cope and deal with seeing your ex (he dumped me about 5+ months ago) at work, AND not only that but seeing him with another colleague whom he likes. He liked her before getting in a relationship with me and they almost dated but then he found out I liked him and we got into a relationship which lasted about 5 months. Might sound wimpy but it has felt kind of stink and kills me a bit, that he likes her and maybe she him. It's I think maybe a bit worse than if he liked a new girl but because he's gone back to her... I know, I know, I'm not supposed to care because he's my ex, but I do. I have to see him at work too and her sometimes. Any advice or comforting words of support..?
Pumpingiron34 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 do what all girls do. find another dude post tons of social media pics with him and wham-o presto youll prolly get a text. Coping on the other hand theres a billion other dudes who are prolly like 696996 times cooler better more fun then him. say pce out never speak to him again.
Christian2282 Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 I think Pumpingiron had some good advice. That is what I'm looking forward to is the day I meet a good man. I got out of abusive marriage last month and found out he's meeting up with girl he admitted to flirting with during our marriage that was co-worker. I'm really upset, but at same time trying to focus on the horrible things he did and I really didn't have fun with him. He never took me on dates, I had to pay when out playing pool. I'm really like, you can have him he's hot, but super crazy. I would make a list of things that you really didn't like about your ex. Quite honestly sounds like she's sloppy seconds... He chose you first and now moving on to her. Don't worry about it. Focus on you and be excited what the future holds! Hugs to you.
Author MeadowFlower Posted January 3, 2017 Author Posted January 3, 2017 Coping on the other hand theres a billion other dudes who are prolly like 696996 times cooler better more fun then him. say pce out never speak to him again. Haha wow love it, made me feel a bit better. And thank you. It is cool how people have replied, these forums can actually help.
Author MeadowFlower Posted January 3, 2017 Author Posted January 3, 2017 (edited) I think Pumpingiron had some good advice. That is what I'm looking forward to is the day I meet a good man. I got out of abusive marriage last month and found out he's meeting up with girl he admitted to flirting with during our marriage that was co-worker. I'm really upset, but at same time trying to focus on the horrible things he did and I really didn't have fun with him. He never took me on dates, I had to pay when out playing pool. I'm really like, you can have him he's hot, but super crazy. I would make a list of things that you really didn't like about your ex. Quite honestly sounds like she's sloppy seconds... He chose you first and now moving on to her. Don't worry about it. Focus on you and be excited what the future holds! Hugs to you. Aww thank you for the hugs. Sounds like you have gone through way worse than me, keep going though And thank you for replying. And that part about be excited what the future holds is good. Unfortunately she isn't his seconds because he pursued her before me, although he did say he liked me before her, anyway. Edited January 3, 2017 by MeadowFlower
Author MeadowFlower Posted January 3, 2017 Author Posted January 3, 2017 You can't do full NC when you work with your ex who dumped you. And when you see him with the girl he liked before being in a relationship with me, whom he still likes... It halts the healing maybe
Miss Clavel Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 i've been doing it for years.we got together starting in 2007 and i called it off two years ago thanksgiving when my mom died and i didn't hear a word from him. i just don't speak to him at all unless it's about work. if he greets me i respond with exactly the same words he uses. good morning gets a 'morning. if he asks me, how are you, i reply, fine. but i don't ask him how he is cuz i know how he is. he's a pain. to my heart and other parts, south. i told him it's over. i wish i could go back, but i ain't changin my mind, cuz he hurt me. a lot. on NYE he asked a co-worker out for the evening, right in front of me. she said no. hahaha. once you become entirely convinced that something or someone is not good for you, it's much easier. take all the time you need, but, come to a firm resolve to avoid people places and things that harm you. after that, it's much easier. best of luck.
Author MeadowFlower Posted January 3, 2017 Author Posted January 3, 2017 (edited) Thanks Miss Clavel, it would probably be different if I had done the dumping. But he dumped me and I still haven't gotten over that even though it's been months. But yea I don't speak to him much at all these days. Just hi and bye basically. That feeling though of him liking that other girl...... (she works at the same place too) Edited January 3, 2017 by MeadowFlower
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