Went back to my old "texting too much" ways

[scotthall]

I had gotten so damn good at not texting too much, or texting random stuff and now with this girl I have fallen back to my old ways

 

I text way too much about random stuff "tonight is a good night for chili" , "man i AM WORE OUT, I need a nap" or just too much in general

 

I have no idea why i do this at all.

 

I feel like I do it, so it's a way she won't forget me?

 

Even though she has said she wouldn't. lol

 

In fact one night i even texted saying" I feel like I text you wayyyy wayyy to much. Do you agree?"

 

She didn't reply to the text and in fact changed the subject

 

Oh gosh

 

Can I recover from this. IF it has impacted her opinion of me? She does always reply to my texts

[smackie9]

To be more desirable is to be less available.....remember that.

[LoveFiend]

yeah I have a habbit of this too. Online and in text messages I am completely opposite then in person personality wise. In person I tend to be a lot more quiet and shy... but online and in text messages I tend to be a talkaholic.

 

I have rather annoyed girls in the past. I just enjoy the attention from women I guess. Best way to deal with this attention issue is spread your need for attention across many women.

 

I do this I got many women that I have dated in past or just female friends I have. I will chat with many in text message and spread my need for attention across many women.

 

I got about 30+ women in my contact list on phone who I will every now and then text message and spark a conversation with.

 

Getting a girlfriend helps a lot. Got a girlfriend now and according to her marriage is something she wants too. So this definitely helps reduce the texting and need from attention from women.

 

I go to bars a lot or chat with waitresses with no desire to ask them out on dates, I just want some attention from females. Just talk to a lady for a while. Ask about them, what they doing, how is the week going, etc. This helps too.

 

As much as I enjoy dates, I really enjoy the act of simply being in a woman's company. Even chatting with female co-workers about anything.

 

This helped me a lot with my need to text a lot and get a lot attention, maybe this strategy will help you.

[spiderowl]

I don't think you should blame yourself. It is a desire for connection and communication, that is all. There is nothing wrong with that. It could get a bit much for anyone though, so you know you need to restrain yourself a bit. Maybe you could join an online chat forum or something where you can send messages and get responses. It would be an outlet and might save a girlfriend from being bombarded

[Lansing]

Some people are addicted to the instant gratification of texting someone and getting a response back right away. That is what causes people to text and drive too. They hear that "ping" are excited to get a message.

 

You really do need to cut back on texting, saying stuff like "I text you too much, do you agree" are self fulling prophecies. You are going to piss her off at some point.

[HereNorThere]

This is a lot deeper than it appears on the surface. What you are describing is actually manifestation of an insecure attachment style. You aren't reaching out for communication, you're reaching out for validation. When you have a secure attachment style, you do not need constant reassurance from you partner. Your style is insecure and anxious, like the reassurance of the receiving a text calms your abandonment fears, but only temporarily.

 

OP, you will drive people away if you continue this behavior. It's unattractive and ultimately it's unhealthy. You need to be an asset to your partners, not a liability.

 

Go down the rabbit hole and figure out what you need to do to fix it. In the meantime, remove their number out of your phone and only reply to the messages they send. Delete the message afterwards so you have no way of texting them until they text you again.

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory