Myspace Angles

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

So I was going to meet up with a girl tonight I met on Tinder a few weeks ago, but we never met up due to being busy w/ Holidays , etc. She looked decent in her pictures, had a cute face and might have weighed a few extra pounds, but nothing crazy.

 

Anyways I got over to her place and she was HUGE. Nothing like her photos, and her face was not nearly as attractive. She was 30 and it looks like she might have used photos of when she was a lot younger. Anyways I made small talk for 20 minutes and then made an excuse, and got the heck out.

 

 

Also had another girl I met online who kept sending me Myspace Angles pictures. Decided I didn't want to find out the hard way again, and asked for a full body shot, and surprise surprise, she was HUGE. I politely told her that she was cute, but not my type and proceeded to block.

 

For the record I am pretty Tall & Slender, and sexually it's really hard for me to work with someone who is very overweight. Not to mention I'm not attracted to someone who doesn't take care of their body. If someone is mildly overweight it's not as big of a deal for me.

 

 

 

Why do Overweight Women use the Myspace Angles so much?? Sure a connection is important, but if there's no attraction, it doesn't mean anything. All they're doing is wasting everyones' time by misrepresenting themselves.

 

Myspace angles are OK for facebook/insta photos, but when you're doing Online Dating I think they should be left out.

 

I understand short guys do the same thing with height, which is also stupid.

 

 

Thoughts?

[Kempeitai]

So I was going to meet up with a girl tonight I met on Tinder a few weeks ago, but we never met up due to being busy w/ Holidays , etc. She looked decent in her pictures, had a cute face and might have weighed a few extra pounds, but nothing crazy.

 

Anyways I got over to her place and she was HUGE. Nothing like her photos, and her face was not nearly as attractive. She was 30 and it looks like she might have used photos of when she was a lot younger. Anyways I made small talk for 20 minutes and then made an excuse, and got the heck out.

 

 

Also had another girl I met online who kept sending me Myspace Angles pictures. Decided I didn't want to find out the hard way again, and asked for a full body shot, and surprise surprise, she was HUGE. I politely told her that she was cute, but not my type and proceeded to block.

 

For the record I am pretty Tall & Slender, and sexually it's really hard for me to work with someone who is very overweight. Not to mention I'm not attracted to someone who doesn't take care of their body. If someone is mildly overweight it's not as big of a deal for me.

 

 

 

Why do Overweight Women use the Myspace Angles so much?? Sure a connection is important, but if there's no attraction, it doesn't mean anything. All they're doing is wasting everyones' time by misrepresenting themselves.

 

Myspace angles are OK for facebook/insta photos, but when you're doing Online Dating I think they should be left out.

 

I understand short guys do the same thing with height, which is also stupid.

 

 

Thoughts?

 

This isnt stupid OP.

 

A girl has a chance to get some action or make a guy fall for them with her personality and charm. Which they would need to meet in person to put on display.

 

Same with men.

Try checking her fb for recent tagged pictures of her full body and/or getting her on skype and checking out the goods that way.

Edited January 2, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[LookAtThisPOst]

This isnt stupid OP.

 

A girl has a chance to get some action or make a guy fall for them with her personality and charm. Which they would need to meet in person to put on display.

 

Same with men.

 

The only thing stupid was you meeting a girl without checking her fb for recent tagged pictures of her full body and/or getting her on skype and checking out the goods that way.

 

Agreed...a long time ago I took a gamble on just a woman who had a face shot, I only decided to meet her in person because she lived close...because I figured, "If she wasn't what I wanted in appearance, at least the drive time wasn't much."

 

She turned out pretty huge. She had to squeeze into the booth at the restaurant.

 

Since then, I at least check for double chins in the face shots and look for at least a waist up picture. Angle shots, unfortunately, hide the second chin because the picture are being taken from above.

[Nowty V]

I stopped using OLD for this very reason.

 

I am not shallow.

 

Neither do I like subterfuge.

[Kempeitai]

I stopped using OLD for this very reason.

 

I am not shallow.

 

Neither do I like subterfuge.

 

Skype them or add them on fb to check tagged pics.

 

Literally takes 1-5 minutes.

Edited January 2, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[phineas]

pro-tip - if they invite you to their house for a first date, chances are they are cat-fishing you.

[losangelena]

Haha, wow this thread.

 

First off, I'm old. What the heck is myspace angles?

 

Secondly, people of all genders can deceive through photos. I once met a man who was a good 60 lbs heavier than his profile photo. It sucks and it does waste both people's time. However, that's a risk one takes doing online dating. Furthermore, people lie about all kinds of stuff in their profile, not just their bodies. Not quiet sure why this is such a sin. I suspect because it involves fat women, and how dare they be allowed to date.

 

As an overweight person myself, I find it imperative to include recent full-body photos. Yes, the number of responses I get is smaller, but when I do the interest is genuine. I've never had trouble attracting partners, even "normal" weight men.

[smackie9]

So I get large people, especially women, find their size to be a challenge when looking for a potential partner. OLD is all about the photos and very little to do with profile. Most of the time profiles are hardly looked at due to "swiping". I feel if you are of a certain body type, instead of being ashamed of it, why not just own it, and be confident about it. There are guys out there that just love a confident curvy woman.

 

As for the OP, you need to be assertive about your expectations. It's not being shallow, or politically incorrect to address such issues with these women. You are attracted to what you are attracted to plain and simple. Here's a tip...ask to Skype/video chat before arranging a date.

[smackie9]

BTW who the hell does MySpace any more??? That is so 2004....

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Wow, didn't expect this much backlash. I am far from being perfect physically, my arms are a bit skinny for a guy, and I am not the most athletic. But I don't misrepresent myself in my photos.

 

Losing weight is a choice everyone has. Yes its not EASY like gaining weight is. But do you know what else isn't easy? Staying active and going to the gym on a consistent basis to prevent ones' self from gaining weight. But people who are overweight (men or women) shouldn't be misleading people who are physically fit into meeting them.

 

I am not attracted to people who are huge, not to mention we are incompatible due to different lifestyles. Me being active and on the move, and they are usually more sedentary and unable to keep up with physical activities that I might want to do. This does not make me a bad person. I am perfectly OK with people who might have a few extra pounds on them, but are otherwise physically in decent shape.

 

 

To the person blaming me for not checking better -- yes I do accept some fault on that. But to explain myself, I do like to give people the benefit of the doubt, I have given some people chances when their pictures have been ambiguous, and ended up pleasantly surprised. I feel like asking someone for a full body shot can feel a bit demeaning to them, but ultimately it sounds like something I will have to consistently do now.

 

 

BTW who the hell does MySpace any more??? That is so 2004....

 

Nobody, call it Facebook angles or whatever you want, but the original term was referred to as the Myspace angles. I don't care what you want to call it, that's not the point of this thread.

[HereNorThere]

I've been a victim of the MySpace angle myself. I decided not to be jerk and continue the date, but I could tell she was insecure the whole time. Oddly enough, she was also really rude and argumentative, like she was trying to reject me first or something.

 

It happens. You can try to stay diligent, but it happens. Btw, it's called the "Facebook version" of you now. Here's a graphic demonstrating this phenomenon.

 

http://i.imgur.com/3lIp6.jpg

[smackie9]

No just video chat....that isn't demeaning at all.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

No just video chat....that isn't demeaning at all.

 

I'd rather just ask for a full body shot pic, takes less time/effort and they can always work the angles over video chat too, so that's not always reliable. It's far more awkward telling them to stand up and back away from their video camera than asking for a full body pic lol.

[smackie9]

I'd rather just ask for a full body shot pic, takes less time/effort and they can always work the angles over video chat too, so that's not always reliable. It's far more awkward telling them to stand up and back away from their video camera than asking for a full body pic lol.

Actually it would be easier to state you are only interested in slim, physically active, or athletic women. And you don't tolerate bs photos, or being mislead.

 

I feel if you have to ask....don't bother and move on.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Actually it would be easier to state you are only interested in slim, physically active, or athletic women. And you don't tolerate bs photos, or being mislead.

 

I feel if you have to ask....don't bother and move on.

 

Actually my Match profile has that in my Body Type Preferences, so I don't need to say it. I do say I'm OK with "a few extra pounds", but that doesnt mean "Fat".

 

I do still get people trying to mislead me though.

 

On Tinder people don't even read descriptions before swiping so that's moot.

 

 

Both Men and Women should be posting photos that represent themselves fairly. Trying to deceive the other person is dishonest.

[Miss Spider]

In the online dating world, a world where a picture is your first impression and photo editing software exists everywhere, you can't really be surprised people look better in photos. You shouldn't really put much stock into anything until you meet the person face to face. Then decide. Doing otherwise is how ppl get catfished or put into uncomfortable situations when you first meet etc. Of course it isn't cool to drastically misrepresent yourself, but it's gonna happen sometimes, even if it's unintentional. I really don't get the mindset of people who purposely.

[Pill]

It's not just overweight women. There are social media women making a livelihood off the perfect back arch and shape creating illusions. I think its fair to say if women are using trickery in their pics, then they HAVE to use it and thus you will be surprised in real life. Put your attention in those who have laid back and candid pics

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

In the online dating world, a world where a picture is your first impression and photo editing software exists everywhere, you can't really be surprised people look better in photos. You shouldn't really put much stock into anything until you meet the person face to face. Then decide. Doing otherwise is how ppl get catfished or put into uncomfortable situations when you first meet etc. Of course it isn't cool to drastically misrepresent yourself, but it's gonna happen sometimes, even if it's unintentional. I really don't get the mindset of people who purposely.

 

Yeah I understand people don't always look the same in their photos as in real life (less makeup, etc) but usually pretty close.

 

Every time i've met someone where I've had a full body shot it's been a good experience so far. Except for the first situation in my original post, that Tinder girl has a full body shot but it was OLD, she gained a ton of weight since that picture was taken.

 

I'll just have to ask for full body shots from people that I match with who are working the angles -- that or just ignore them.

 

It's important that the person I end up with takes pride in their body and takes care of it. Obesity is a form of self-abuse.

[Miss Spider]

Well if the full body who thing works for you that is great. But editing software can be used to slim yourself too. I saw an app and was amazed at what it could do. You can shrink your body too. lol. I guess my whole point was that nothing is really guaranteed until you meet in person. But yeah, whatever works for you.

[HereNorThere]

A person has to be really, really good with photoshop or it's rather noticeable. I definitely zoom in and check out the pixel layout and color scheme if I'm in doubt.

 

Watch out for pictures of girls in bathing suits in the water. It's really hard not to bend the walls and doorways behind a person when manipulating their waistline, but water is already wavy. Apparently the tinderellas have figured out this trick because I see it all the time. That's why you always have to detach the picture, zoom in and look for the tell tale signs of photo manipulation. Check the pixel blending around the edges and use an html/rgb color tool to see if the colors match throughout the picture. SURPISE, if they're against a white wall, you start finding true white around their waistline, but wall registers as another shade of white. Always a dead giveaway because they aren't proficient enough to copy the wall's real color and use it.

 

This is why we can't have nice things.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Haven't really had trouble with Photoshopped photos before, so i'll take the risk. But if the photos seem tampered with, then I'll definitely take note.

[Frozensushi]

A few of the gals I've met using Tinder where far too overweight for my tastes. But it's weird how they look thin in the face and everything below the bosom is where all the extra calories go.

 

Some of these women can be as creative as Speilberg with their pics. Others tend to use older photos. I met up for a Tinder date once and it wasn't even the same person as in the photos. She tried to plead her case that if I just gave her a shot I wouldn't be disappointed. *sigh*

 

Starting off with a lie is just not a good way to go. I think people on these OLD sites, in general, shoot waaaaay out of their league.

[Miss Spider]

A few of the gals I've met using Tinder where far too overweight for my tastes. But it's weird how they look thin in the face and everything below the bosom is where all the extra calories go.

 

Some of these women can be as creative as Speilberg with their pics. Others tend to use older photos. I met up for a Tinder date once and it wasn't even the same person as in the photos. She tried to plead her case that if I just gave her a shot I wouldn't be disappointed. *sigh*

 

Starting off with a lie is just not a good way to go. I think people on these OLD sites, in general, shoot waaaaay out of their league.

 

 

 

People can seriously change in a year (weight gain etc)?and their photos might be dated too. Good point.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

A few of the gals I've met using Tinder where far too overweight for my tastes. But it's weird how they look thin in the face and everything below the bosom is where all the extra calories go.

 

Some of these women can be as creative as Speilberg with their pics. Others tend to use older photos. I met up for a Tinder date once and it wasn't even the same person as in the photos. She tried to plead her case that if I just gave her a shot I wouldn't be disappointed. *sigh*

 

Starting off with a lie is just not a good way to go. I think people on these OLD sites, in general, shoot waaaaay out of their league.

 

I think people should always TRY to shoot out of their league, but they shouldn't lie about it.

 

That being said sometimes it's good to have realistic expectations. If you are extremely overweight, you will need to either lose weight if you want to date someone who is physically fit, or scale back your expectations to dating a bigger guy.

 

If a connection is more important than looks, why can't fat girls date fat guys?

 

I really don't CARE what anyone does, they should just be honest about themselves.

 

People can seriously change in a year (weight gain etc)?and their photos might be dated too. Good point.

 

I think that's what happened with the 1st Tinder girl in my original post... Kinda hard to account for that in screening =/

[Popsicle]

Well OLD is a conducive environment for those seeking to hide things or deceive. It's a shame because there are honest people on there. As a woman you'll get married men, men who have baseball caps on in every picture, dim lighting, and pics of motorcycles/cars instead of themselves.