This is hard

[memomma]

How do I do this?

My husband and I are separated.

I have tried to talk to him regarding the property division.

We can't seem to come to an agreement.

It's not that difficult....basically our big asset is the house. I felt we should sell it and divide the profit 50/50. He owned the lot we built the house on and wanted to divide the profit 2/3's for him and 1/3 for me.

I have a problem with that because I paid for major renovation to the house that equal the cost of the lot. Granted, I paid for the work to be done during the marriage but I made the improvements and feel I should be acknowledged for them.

Anyway.....I told him this AM if we could divide the profit 60/40....me with the 40%.....that I would accept that and not touch his 401K and profit sharing plan.

Here I am thinking this is fair and would speed things along and he says to me "Let me think about it".

Pisses me off.

Think about what?

I'm trying to compromise and it feels like he's just playing games. He doesn't have an attorney and so the only way for us to communicate about this is to talk directly to one another. I get so mad when I do this that my insides tighten and my vision blurs. Really.

I just am having a hard time.

He says he doesn't want the divorce and I think he does this just out of spite.

It's hard.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Have you considered getting your own lawyer, and letting him/her handle the property stuff so that you don't have to?

[memomma]

I have an attorney.

He doesn't.

In order to conserve my retainer fee (it is dwindling fast).....I have attempted to settle this between the two of us and then submit the agreement once it is reached to my attorney.

I can't do this when he refuses to give me answers to my proposals.

Frustrating.

[Marshbear]

I think your offer of 40% is fair. If he has a problem I would tell your lawyer you want the maximum and there will be no bartering.