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I have been with my bf for around 4 months. We see each other about twice a week on average.

 

What I find a bit odd is that sometimes he contacts me so much, tells me about every single detail of his day when we are apart, tells me about his feelings for me, literally the words and long messages just flow.

 

Then the day or 2 after, he barely contacts me and when I do, it's 2 word replies and he lets the conversation drop.

 

The frequency of communication doesn't bother me it's more the on/off intensity that I find odd. I often wonder what happens to his on his distant days.

 

Cause for worry?

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Its a preview of whats to come. You can ask him to change since you want a man to give freely. Accept it or move on. Inconsistency is a deal breaker for me. If his interest level were high he would reach out more often.

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Its a preview of whats to come. You can ask him to change since you want a man to give freely. Accept it or move on. Inconsistency is a deal breaker for me. If his interest level were high he would reach out more often.

 

I mean, even on the "distant" days, he still initiates at least couple of texts a day. There is just a marked difference between a constant stream of lovey texts some days and just a couple the next.

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If he's lovey right after you leave then it could be hes just reflecting on your time together and thinking about you a lot. Then a day or 2 later he's back to being focused on work or whatever responsibilities he has to take care of when you're not there.

 

If it really bothers you then tell him. He probably doesn't realize it's a problem for you at all. You do run the risk of seeming a bit clingy though

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