is he wanting to change teams for a bit?

July 18, 2005

I'm female, one of my best friends is a gay male. We are extremely close- inseperable.

I was talking to him on the phone the other night and my cat Samba was sitting on my lap. I started calling the cat all these baby names like baby, darling,sweety, honey etc. Matt my friend was saying look i can't listen to this because your cats just a vicious little bitch (thats another story) anyway he goes "No I'm just jealous.......of Samba".

Awkward long silence follows.

What does he want- me to call him baby names? Is he trying to mess with my head? Is he wanting to change teams? It makes me angry. He's always sending me mixed messages. Please help!!

July 18, 2005

Originally posted by mishy
What does he want- me to call him baby names? Is he trying to mess with my head? Is he wanting to change teams? It makes me angry. He's always sending me mixed messages. Please help!!

Try if you can to take these things lightly - in your shoes I'd tease him back a little.

But if it makes you angry, ask him (nicely) to stop.

And definitely don't let it go further - a gay man experimenting with straight would be an incredibly bad bet for a relationship.

July 18, 2005

its just confusing

July 18, 2005

Originally posted by mishy
its just confusing

No kidding!

July 18, 2005

I bet he was joking.

July 18, 2005

I would definitely say he was kidding. I know from experience. I have had a few gay friends, and we would always tease each other like that. It was all very innocent. If he was really interested in you I think he would show it in other ways. It's nothing to get upset about just take it lightly next time and tease him back (if you have that sense of humor).