hyeeunyah Posted January 1, 2017 Posted January 1, 2017 Hi, Basically, this guy is my bandmate (we're in the same club in school) and I sing while he plays the guitar. Last year, I joined the band late so I had a hard time fitting in with everyone else, and he went out of his way to welcome me and make sure I was comfortable. He started texting and talking to me everyday over small things, as well doing nice acts for me such as buying me tea when i had a sore throat, etc. He also asked me out to watch a movie and so we went out, we shared the same straw and he put his arm around my waist the whole time and also paid for everything (including dinner) and would call me affectionate names such as sweetie and babe. I even gave him a necklace on that day, one I bought from overseas. After that first date, we both got caught up in the stress of exams and drifted apart. We had an argument about how I didn't put effort into my studies, etc. In the end, neither of us were able to give up our pride and start talking to the other first, and we ended up not talking for a whole year. Well, we talked in real life (since we're both in the same band) but not individually. He was very cool and detached and rarely even cared about me anymore, which was a stark contrast to the way he used to be so warm and caring. But at our final band concert, he wore the necklace I gave him and even showed it to me so that I knew he was wearing it. This year after our final exams had ended, he started talking to me again. I posted on social media that I was feeling unwell and he sent a long paragraph of text saying I should take care and for me to stay healthy and get well soon. Naturally I replied and he responded with even more lengthy messages. From then on we struck up a constant conversation, we both bought each other clothes from overseas and he always starts conversations with me everyday. We also went out again and this time, other than putting his arm around my waist, he also held my hand and hugged me when we said goodbye. Now he's back to sending heart emojis and calling me babe, back to being the caring and gentlemanly person I liked so much, we still talk everyday after going out and he never fails to wish me goodnight and sweet dreams before he goes to sleep. I think he likes me, and I'm sure he knows that I like him as well (I never actually reciprocated with the same words when he called me babe or cheesy stuff like that, but I never stopped liking him, even when we stopped talking for a year) but the fact that he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend or anything is making me have my doubts. Is it because he isn't ready for a relationship or because we've actually only gone out twice despite texting everyday? Also I know for a fact that he isn't talking to any other girls or is interested in anyone other than me, so I don't know why it bugs me that he hasn't asked me to be official, but it just does.
Ronnys93 Posted January 1, 2017 Posted January 1, 2017 It sounds to me like everything seems to be going pretty smoothly. You've only gone on two dates and he seems receptive to you and you're constantly in contact with each other. I'm not sure what the rush is to be called his boyfriend at this time? I would say continue to go on dates and enjoy yourselves. Don't get caught up in the title of "boyfriend" or being 'exclusive' just yet. He definitely does like you, and you like him. If you need further clarification go out on some more dates and then have a talk to see if you're both on the same page!
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