oneinamillion93 Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 I am kinda a simple person, sometimes can be very naive. Recently I went on a date with a guy, the date went well I guess, at least in my view. Unfortunately he ghosted me since then. Im not that clingy I just thịnk isn't it more decent of him to tell me that we are not competitive instead of ghosting somebody like that? Well I am really honest, I answered all the questions honestly that at some points he asked me why would I be that honest, I told him "cause people will find out someday sooner or later I don't wanna hide it". We held hands a bit before I got on the train. He went home texted me if I made it home safe then goodnight and nothing since then. I felt bad a little bit because he caught me off guard, I'm too comfort to talk about everything that I didn't realised what I should say and what not. Like I let a stranger see through my nature and now I'm regreted. We might not seeing each other ever again in our life but I still can't get over it. How can I fix it? How can I be more wise in dating/relationship?
Author oneinamillion93 Posted December 31, 2016 Author Posted December 31, 2016 Have you heard a thing called TMI? Too much information? Is that what you did? What did you tell him? And he did tell you you are not compatible by not contacting you again. He doesn't have to put it in writing and send it by mail. I think I tell him many things. Its because I rarely asking any questions. Well I told him a lot but nothing really specific, not too much into details.
smackie9 Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 Maybe change things up and instead of answering so many questions as conversation, why not just talk about things in general and initiate, like where you have traveled, a funny story when you were at work, or something that you did when you were a kid...keeping it light and add some humor. Be more mysterious, and flirty....make the date fun, positive.
travelbug1996 Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 Keep it general. Ask questions about them as well. Don't talk too much
preraph Posted January 1, 2017 Posted January 1, 2017 There's a basic rule of dating and that is don't ever talk about your sex history or your exes early on. Just zip it. They don't know you well enough to be finding out that stuff.
Gaeta Posted January 1, 2017 Posted January 1, 2017 Ghosting is common, he won't be the last one to ghost on you. He text you after the date so how about you text him now? Dating is a game played by 2 people. I don't know what questions he asked you but I doubt he won't see you again because of your openness unless you went on and on about exs and your sex life.
Author oneinamillion93 Posted January 1, 2017 Author Posted January 1, 2017 Ghosting is common, he won't be the last one to ghost on you. He text you after the date so how about you text him now? Dating is a game played by 2 people. I don't know what questions he asked you but I doubt he won't see you again because of your openness unless you went on and on about exs and your sex life. Mostly I told him my view of point about some certain things and straightforwards about my nature, like I don't care if people think I'm a selfish or a bitchy person, If they understand me they'll stick around. I don't even talk about my exes leave alone sex life. I sense the chance in his mind after I went home, I thanked for the night and said It was fun, he didn't say anything so I think it's time to stop.
Gaeta Posted January 1, 2017 Posted January 1, 2017 Mostly I told him my view of point about some certain things and straightforwards about my nature, like I don't care if people think I'm a selfish or a bitchy person, If they understand me they'll stick around. I don't even talk about my exes leave alone sex life. I sense the chance in his mind after I went home, I thanked for the night and said It was fun, he didn't say anything so I think it's time to stop. Wow! I would not want to see you again either. What a awful negative motto to live by. Who would want to be around someone like this. You basically told him you are a bitchy selfish person and you don't care to change it and you don't care the effect it has on people. It's your way or the highway. This man was wise to pass.
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